How do I deal with bullies at work?

Question

I'm 31 years old and I've always had to deal with bullies. I used to be this painfully shy little girl and of course, that made me the prime target for bullies, but now, I'm a fairly confident grown-up who speaks her mind, but I'm still dealing with people who do their best to make me feel like the world's biggest idiot if I ask a question (I've been in my position for all of 3 months, it's safe to say that I haven't learned everything yet). Some of my coworkers speak a different language that I barely understand, but I KNOW when they're talking about me and they do it quite often. I admit that I can be a bit hypersensitive and I'm often accused of being "too nice", but I do speak up for myself... What gives? How do I remove the "easy target" tattoo from my forehead? (Here's an example: Friday, a coworker insisted that I'm Mexican. I'm not, but would be damn proud of it if I were! He made it sound like I was insulted by the very idea of being Mexican in front of others.) WTF?

Hmmm, Toddo, I don't know that I agree with you... He told me that I was Mexican and then claimed that I had said that my mom was Mexican. It was really weird because I never said anything remotely similar to that. It was as though we were having two different conversations... He truly wasn't listening to a word I was saying. I wish it were a simple communication problem, but it's more of a no one listens to a word that I say-type of situation. I'm the girl who will be talking about something for 10 seconds and then someone cuts me off. It's giving me an inferiority complex!

Answer 1

While at work try very HARD to Focus on your job, That is what's IMPORTANT, And as long as you are taking care of you/your job nothing else should matter, STOP GETTING INTO CONVERSATIONS THAT DO NOT PERTAIN to work, TRY THIS IGNORE STUPID COMMENTS. LIKE THAT ONE YOU JUST HAD Friday. Some people are stupid and just want to see if they can push all if any of your bot tons, Do not worry or feed into rather or not people are talking about you, SO WHAT IF THEY ARE THEN THAT JUST MEANS YOU ARE THE SH%#T. Just be yourself, I have a MOTO when it comes to bullies, My Moto is this they can say whatever they want/wish AS LONG AS THEY DON'T PUT THEIR HANDS ON YA. NOW GO TO WORK DO YOUR JOB MAKE THAT MONEY AND BE YOUR SELF, Thank You and I to use to be like you, BUT NOW I CAN BUST HELL WIDE OPEN, @ Times people make ya this way. LOL

Answer 2

Some people have a "nice guy" label because it fits.

However, it sounds like the way you're getting "bullied" is people putting words in your mouth, and there's an easy solution to that: work on improving your communication skills. Even working on non-verbal clues will give you a stronger aire of authority, and it may just be that you're not doing a good job communicating what you're really thinking.

Other than that, just keep your head up, I can relate.

Answer 3

Unfortunately you are going to discover idiots like this in all places on the planet. Kids in High college will also be enormously imply simply on account that they consider they may be able to. You might come again with a announcement akin to... while he hates how unpleasant women blah blah blah.... you could talk up and say.. Too unhealthy you consider i'm an unsightly woman, nonetheless, I can continually difference to be lovely, however you are going to be caught with that unpleasant perspective your complete lifestyles. I am sorry you need to manage children who don't have any brains and weren't introduced up with adequate compassion and knowledge that simply on account that you don't seem just like the film stars on television, you're nugatory. I am definite you're by and large an excessively first-rate watching younger woman, and person who has brilliant stars on your long run!! Ignore the chumps, and convey on lovely woman.. you are going to do great!!

Answer 4

you need to be more than confident, tell that border jumping dirty mexican to take him/her and all their felon cousins back to mexico, don't be afarid of what people think, but just make yourself indespensilbe with your company first, sometimes you have to fight fire with fire, it sounds like you need a lesson in reading between the lines, which is ok, but just make sure you don't tell too much about yourself to people you don't know , trust me they will use it against you, and you can't trust anyone, i don't want to make you paranoid, but that is the way of the world, but just rememeber you don't have to accept anyone if you don't want to and you don't have to be sorry about it, if you would like to talk more about this get me at pacman0042001 at ya-hoo dot com

Answer 5

kick their asses after work.