I really love this man and I don't think I want to leave him. I'm not so sure how much he loves me, though I think he does. We are from very different culture, background, & really different personalities. He's very moody and can be absolutely adorable at one moment and really freightening the next, even though he might not mean it. That makes me feeling more and more troubled and unsecured. And a lot of times I don't think he's considering about me so much. He has gone through a very painful divorce & his 2 daughters are living with the mother. He talks a lot about his ex-wife and his daughters. I'm more disturbed at the moment as his daughters are visiting him and I can see how much love he has for them. He's still very nice to me and I really like the two children, but I can't stop feeling that I'm putting myself in a world that I don't belong to. I'm not sure whether I can feel better in the future. I'm becoming really doubtful but I still can't decide what's the best thing to do.
2006-08-06 14:19:46 · 17 answers · asked by TC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To keep is simple I just deleted about all of my answer.
Reading between the lines of your question, I think you know what is the solution to your problem.
I agree with goldengurl. Follow your instinct. Be strong but be smart and be careful.
You have become distracted from following your life's plan by someone else's emotional baggage.
Be true to yourself and the one meant for you.
2006-08-06 14:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by ena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Trust your feelings 2. Marriages when both are from the same culture stand a 50/50 chance of making it. 3. His mood swing could indicate an emotional or mental health problem that could change to abuse later. You are asking for trouble in my opinion if you're not sure how much he loves you but you "think" he does. Are you a needy person? If so you won't see the problems but if you have a full and complete life without a man, you'll step back and see that this is not a good situation. There are other men available and in time you will be blessed with one. Go talk to a therapist or your minister. For God's sake don't bring any children into this relationship to fix it. Too many of us are messed up now because our parents had problems. He has two children now that will suffer from his divorce. Good luck
2006-08-06 21:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave run like the wind while can, joking. Honey that's a lot of responsibility and too much trying to help a men who was married and has two daughter's right now your his rebound chick and you know that pretty often you are just helping them get over it and many times may over look your genuine love. Girl, I am glad my fiance was divorced and out of it for about four years when he an I got together! I wish you good luck though if you love him but be careful females are very catty!
2006-08-14 16:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you minus the love what else holds you together? It takes more than love to make a relationship work. You sound smart and capable of making good choices. so.............what do you see in 5 years from now in your life with him? This relationship is either you are over reacting or he is not feeling as strong about the two of you as you are. COMMUNICATE..........Tell him first and not everyone else how you are feeling. Then decide where you want your future to be.
2006-08-06 23:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by the answers are there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
Don't trust your feelings!
Trust the facts. You spelled it out really well and if you can stand back and look at the situation from the viewpoint of being in someone else's shoes you will know what to do.
It is very plain to me, but it must be to you as well.
Thoughts and feelings have nothing to do with the actions that we take, the actions must be centred on what our purpose is.
What is your purpose in this 'relationship?'
2006-08-14 14:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word that disturbs me in your question is "frightening." If you feel fear then you are in the wrong place. It is hard to leave someone you love, but this doesn't sound like the best relationship for you. You will find someone else and you won't have to wonder if he loves you. He will show you and tell. You won't ever feel frightened. Good luck to you.
2006-08-14 08:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be around someone that is very moody, that is not good for you. He should be more considerate of you. Is he taking any drugs of any kind??? You might want to check this out??? He needs to get over any feelings that he has for his ex-wife good or bad. Good Luck.
2006-08-06 21:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always just listen to my instincts when I dont know what to do. If you feel uncomfortable then heed your warning.. maybe not leave just yet but dont let your defenses down. Good luck.
2006-08-06 21:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you are from from different cultures, backgrouds and have very different personalities, well, you must be retarded to get involved in sutch a relationship. run before you decorate a slab in a morgue.
2006-08-14 14:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to bail. The key words are "really frightening."
You shouldn't have to live in a situation that makes you feel insecure.
2006-08-06 21:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Suze O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋