He wants to come in through the back door, and I'm terrified of the pain. Any suggestions for diversion tactics or actually braving my way through it ?
2006-08-06 14:05:55 · 27 answers · asked by spontaneousgamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am scared of back door too. I don't want to be a pants pooper when I am old. If you are freaked out, you won't relax enough to do it.
2006-08-06 14:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADULTS ONLY!!!!
Shy folks please do not read....
Well, to be honest, I am the one who had this idea and not my husband because I had to wait for along time after baby. I did ask my doctor and she said it was safe but there was a round muscles called a sphincter muscle you have one more but its in your digestive system. Anyways, you have to open the muscle or its going to hurt. Also you have to use a good lubricant. KY is ok, or just generic. You have to open it so try a lubed finger first, maybe a sex toy that vibrates, and wait, try again til theres no discomfort maybe try your sex toy first. Youll be surprised to learn that quickly you can move beyond the pain to having one of the best exeriences you can imagine. Remember to lube and open, thats from my doc, and add vibration to the clitoris, thats from me. I did it for my husband, my idea, and it turned out it was great for me too. Perhaps other women wondering the same thing can learn from this question, so this answer is for you.
2006-08-06 21:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by PeaceTree 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to let you be in control of that hole and use a vibrator first with tons of lubrication. If that doesn't feel good than do it while you masterbate, bring the clitoral pleasure in there and relax, relax, relax. But don't let anybody push you into doing what you don't want to do. I have done it and it hurt but not as bad as it seems, it feels like you have to poop sometimes but it feels really powerful when you orgasm.I say try it, what can you lose.
2006-08-06 21:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Judith Kranky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
most men are obsessed with that LOL. use lots of lube and take it slow and if you don't like it don't do it. At least give it a try and it hurts like hell at first. Then only bad thing is if you hate it and he likes it "he probably will" then he will want to do it all the time. you must come to the understanding it is a mutual agreement. It hurt my first time but i dint mind it from time to time.
good luck
2006-08-06 21:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by sarah a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex hurts only when done incorrectly. The keys are trust, relaxation, and lubrication.
1) You have to trust him enough to know that he will take it as slowly and gently as you need him to.
2) With that trust, you can relax as much as possible. For anal sex to be pleasureable, you must relax the outer and inner sphincter muscles completely.
3) Some good slippery lubricant will make it much easier and better for you.
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2006-08-06 21:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If done correctly, it's not painful-all though it may be uncomfortable at first. The trick is the use of a condom; lots of lubrication; taking time; and you've got to use your sphincter muscles correctly.
*covering mouth with both hands* oops, did I just say all that?
2006-08-06 21:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Raggedy Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you tolerate something that hurts you? Are you that desperate for a man? Maybe he's on the down low (seeing men) but not in a gay life style. He should get a man. The anus wasn't made for sex. It's to eliminate waste from the body--period. And going from one to the other can give you a vaginal infection. Get some self esteem and self respect.
2006-08-06 21:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Either brave through it. Or just dont do it. The guy likes the tightness, you cant blame him.
2006-08-06 21:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok so u said he likes coming throw the back door why so he can hit u ?
if thats so u need 2 stop this relationship because it might not get better or if u like this guy i have one thing to tell u. u like a guy that hits u and gets you all brused up ??????????? just think about that
2006-08-06 21:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by jenrocks151 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Males since caveman times have liked to show their dominance of the female.
If you do NOT want to do it, that should be enough of an answer for him, if he still insists-
tell him, sure he can go thru the back door, right after you go thru his also........
2006-08-06 21:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋