She said we had differnt goals in life,she said we will never be togather and she wants me to be her friend stillHow do i move on and shouild i be her friend we still talk on the phone everyday i do most of he calling though
2006-08-06 14:00:02 · 19 answers · asked by smustufa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i was 19 when we sared daing and she was 20,i am 25 now, i thought it was a lile early for marriage.
2006-08-08 12:13:07 · update #1
You need to believe her and put some distance between the two of you. How often do you call your other friends? Don't call her any more than that, and for a while, you should probably stop calling her at all. If she misses you, she will call you.
The best way to move on is to focus your attention on something or someone else. For example, you can put some time into improving your relationship with your father or a brother or another friend. Or you can take a class in something or get involved in a new hobby or sport--something that requires time, focus, and energy. Whenever you think of her, shift your attention in another direction--don't wallow in your feelings for her.
It's possible she may find that she misses you and has made a mistake, but don't sit by the phone waiting for that to happen. Instead go about your life assuming that she is being honest with you. If she does come around, you'll be a stronger person, and if she doesn't come around . . . well, you'll still be a stronger person.
2006-08-06 14:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but relationships where you do most of your growing up as a person don't usually work because when you grow up you tend to see how different you are from when you first got in the relationship. I tell people grow up first know who you are as a person then get in a relationship. You nor her should be in the same place mentally where you were 6 years ago, and maybe for her that means she is headed in a new direction as to what she wants out of life, and your just not it any more. That's what you call growing up to grow apart instead of growing with each other. Because this is not messy and she value you as a friend it's ok to be her friend but I would back off until you got yourself together emotionally where you can call her as a friend instead of an ex trying to get her back. Do that and you can heal and move on faster. I was in a 5 year relationship, and took a year off before we became friends. I hope this helps.
The last thing I wanted to say was I don't know if you guys ever talked about it, but I would leave to if I was with a guy for 6 years, and we were not married or at least engaged. I was engaged in my 5 year relationship, but we called it off 5 months before the wedding. How long is she suppose to stay and just be your girlfriend?
2006-08-06 21:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, this is a tough question to answer. But, if you both have different goals, you must move on. If you don't feel like being with any1 else right now, just stay single for a while and concentrate on other stuff- school, college, university, a job, etc... If you are kept busy you wont have time to mope around. It will take a while.
2006-08-06 21:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you broke up with your girlfriend. Trust me it's going to be hard to move on. Cause that's all you will think about is her everyday every second of the week. But you no what just take it one day at a time. You will get over her pretty soon.
2006-08-06 21:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by BaVonni S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years she probably outgrew the relationship.
You're better off moving on with your life as soon as possible.
Call her one last time to say good bye to the 'friendship'.
Then never call her again, no matter how bad you feel.
In time the ache will go away. It will go away even faster when you begin dating again.
2006-08-06 21:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what game she is playing...but point blank...its a game. She has been with you for six years and all the sudden desides that your goals are different? Ok, that is legitimate but what is the staying in touch crap about? "Oh, if I cant find anyone with my goals he will be a good 'fall-back'." Dump her, dump her all the way. No phone calls not being sloppy seconds.
2006-08-06 21:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but I think if you keep talking to her you will not be able to move on. Don't close the door completly but...perhaps if you stop calling she comes to realize that she still loves you and that you can work things out. Trust me...the best shot you have now is INDIFFERENCE, try it if you still want her back.
2006-08-06 21:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call her. Move on without her. What if she were to get another boyfriend and she started to rub it in when you called her, how would you feel. Let bygones be bygones; find another and if you happen to meet her on the street say hello but leave it at that. You will be better off without her.
2006-08-06 21:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop calling her and move on, if she calls you, just cut the conversation short. Yes its going to be hard, but you will get through it, and in the end you will meet someone better. Take care!
2006-08-06 21:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling her. Move on. Time to change priorities. Life is waaaaay to short to beat a dead relationship.
She said it's over. Know what? It's over.
2006-08-06 21:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋