Sister is not happy unless she's the center of attention...?

Question

When she is at outs with a SO, or when she's having a medical crisis (which she blows out of proportion), she rallies family members and sucks us dry for attention and pity. If she's happy at home, we never hear from her.
A few months ago when she was plastered drunk I drew the line, refused to cater to her BS any more. All I wanted was for her to behave like a normal human and understand that we ALL have feelings and issues, not just her. She then became a total bi otch and has now blown me off because after all, nothing is ever her fault. Of course, her behaviors are magnified by drinking.
We have a social event next weekend. It will be the first time I've seen her in 6 weeks. I'm tempted not to go, because I know she'll be drinking and frankly I'm exhausted over that whole thing.
I've tried talking to her about it, but like I said, nothing's ever her fault and her childhood was more miserable than anyone else's...
What should I do? For next weekend, and beyond?

Answer 1

I really empathize, much as I love me sis

I think that you askin this question shows ya can rise above it...... it is not easy but ya DO get to keep your integrity

One day when she is settled and properly happy (with HERSELF) you may have a good relationship - that is what I'm hanging around for with my own sister, anyway, tho for the time being she is not ringing me cos she is "happy" -------- I will pay for this silence in spades if everything goes wrong with her so I am hoping for both our sakes it goes well.....

Good luck with your sister - but remember, she IS your sister and YOU can draw the line any place ya wana draw it: do NOT let her play all the cards

You sound loving but exhausted (drama-queens tend to do that!) so just do what you feel is best ---- if you don't go, maybe that will be bad for you? Think about what is GOOD for you, ok?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

i know exactly how u feel. my sister doesnt really like bein the center of attention, but i still cant stand her, and shes still a child even though shes 20. dont let your sis control what u do and where u go. go to the party, but just avoid her as much as possible. u really cant do anything to control her actions or talk any sense into her. all u can do is hope and pray that she grows out of her insanity and eventually you guys will get along. girl, i know how u feel, it sucks, i hate to say this, but u have to stay away from her for now. u will get through this and u have to realize that youre the bigger person and your sis is a little tiny ant.

Answer 4

Your sister has a drinking problem, first off, second, what is her birth order? Are you the oldest or is she?

How did your parents treat her? How did your father treat her? Was she ignored, or put on a pedestal?

She is acting out. The question is why does she need all this attention. She is looking for love on a grand scale. Was there a lack of love for her in the family?

Answer 5

tell her to grow up. there are other things that are important and she isnt. just ingore her until she wakes up to herself. dont give in to her and dont let her take advantage of you. tell her that you are not going to have anything to do with her until she realises what she has done.

Answer 6

Do what you've done since you two were very little. Tolerate her and hope that she grows up?

Answer 7

omg i know what cha mean

Answer 8

just ignore this