I have become very close with my friends/co-workers and the last two times we all got together over the weekend we've indulged in group sex. Now that seems to be the only reason they invite us over. What should I say or do to change this? We want friends who appreciate us for more than sex.
2006-08-06 13:22:08 · 36 answers · asked by Angileque 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take a BBQ hamper and a few bottles of wine with you next time then you can eat and drink together, too. Or how about a video? Maybe you could even take along some raquets and balls ahave a game of indoor naked tennis? There's a million things you could do, habe you lost your imagination? Body paints, anyone?
2006-08-06 13:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I find it hard to believe that ALL your friends /co-workers want to have group sex! There has to be others who do not partake in that kind of activity. Maybe you are drawn to that behavior for reasons you may not understand. That is not the norm.While it may seem exciting at first, I can see you dont want that to be the norm for your life.It wont be easy but you have to bring the topic up about how you feel to the people you are with. Others may feel the same way but dont have the guts to say it.You can also plan an outing in public where you wont be able to have sex. Hang in there, you can do it!
2006-08-06 13:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by twildman22 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
say no! and don't go! you are asking for a pattern to start and maybe not stop. when you are interested in having a family do you want your significant other to know that you did this? what if your kids knew? I am not passing judgment, but it is surely risky business. get a group of other friends. not hard to do. co-workers need to stay co-workers only. you sound like a nice enough person. goodness, you have a group of friends now it should be no problem gettin some new ones. just don't step past the line of friends are friends and lovers are lovers. you had the experience now you can go from there. you choose if you want to continue. just a simple "no thank you" and if needed "i am not comfortable with this arrangement, but thanks for asking and i'll take it as a complement". end of story.
2006-08-06 13:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess Iwould say yes. But only yes for about 2 times. But I am too young if you really know me. If want all that to change. Then maybe you guys should do something else over the weekends. Get your friends dates for the night!
2006-08-06 13:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Casey Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just quit hanging out with them in the first place. Try finding friends at church. They usualy aren't the type to be into group sex. My church has gold/ball turnaments, pool parties, picnics, and other fun (free) activities and there are a lot of friendly people that want to laugh and have fun. I'm not into most of that kind of stuff, but I know a lot of people are. BTW, I go to a chruch called the "Vineyard" it is kind of a newer church and there are Vineyards all over the US I think.
2006-08-06 13:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be able to tell the difference between sex buddies and real friends. The ones you describe are NOT your friends. Find new friends and if the group sex is great, keep the sex buddies too.
2006-08-06 13:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Private Account 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply say "NO". You should have used better judgement the first time it happened, and walked away then. If you participated the first time, it's only natural they would ask you back. Have more pride in yourself and find other activities to get involved in when they ask. They sound like a disease just waiting to happen, and YOU are the bigger fools if you even consider accepting again.
2006-08-06 13:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by LadyotheLakes 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them exactly that-that you want friends who appreciate you for more than sex.If that doesn't work,then they're obviously not very good friends and you should stop being friends with that group of people.
2006-08-06 13:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rosy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to say something soon before it becomes a habit. Be honest and tell them you're not really into the group sex thing. If they are really your friends, they should be able to honor your request.
2006-08-06 13:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
that's the way u started the relationship out, tell them what u just told us if they dont respond 2 u until sex time then u know that's what your relationship is about sex if u r not happy with that then move on
2006-08-06 13:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by mf mf mf mf mf fmf mf mfmfmfmfmf 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋