Do you think it is possible to love your husband or wife , but not be in love with them?

Question

Wow, All great answers & I hate to put this up for vote but I really want to see what other people think . I have been told by many people they are unhappy but still love their partner.Where does happiness really begin and end. Emotions run wild don't they?

Answer 1

Love is love. You either love someone or you don't.

It is that simple.

Answer 2

Yes, absolutely! Things happen that can make you "fall out of love" but you don't' get married thinking that will happen. My ex-husband was gorgeous and so good in bed. But I grew and he stayed stagnate. So we 'fell out of love" But when he started cheating it became "HATE". It happened in stages. If you are still in love try therapy it can work, especially if the therapy includes an open discussion of mutual respect and sex. Because a lot of the time not being opened to talk about that taboo kills a marriage.My new husband and I started in therapy & have not had a real problem in 9 years, and the sex is great!

Answer 3

That sounds like a case of feelings for a friend there. Because when you get married you should be "in" love with your husband or wife. It would be a waste of both ppl's time if you only love each other like a brother or a really good friend.

Answer 4

Yes, absolutely. Being "in love" is chemistry, or phenylethylamine , or infatuation. It's what you feel in the beginning. When things are new and all you want to do is spend time with that person.

Love begins after all that feeling goes away. It's what makes people work though times when things aren't rosy

Answer 5

Absolutely! Loving someone does not mean you have to even like them. You care about them and will protect them from fire spewing dragons, defend their honor if someone badmouths them, but you do not want to spend time with them. Being IN LOVE with someone is a temporary thing...this may develope into loving them, but the main difference is that being in love with someone is loving how they make you feel and loving the person you are when you are with them. Loving someone is about care and tolerance. A mother always loves her children, but she doesn't always like them, because they drive her up the walls, and though she may threaten to feed them to the crocodiles, she will do everything in her power to keep them from harms way.

Answer 6

I do think that its possible to love someone but not be inlove with them. There is a big difference and if you have doubts you should evaluate why your married to that person in the first place

Answer 7

Yes, I think that is a natural cycle of passion, actually. You know you love him, and that is nature saying -- stay with him -- and those months when you are overwhelmed all the sudden? That's the icing on the cake.

Answer 8

yeah its definitely possible. after i found out my girl cheated on me while i was deployed, everything changed. i still cared about her, i still loved her but i was no longer in love with her. what we had before just kinda faded. i didnt hate her, i still cared but I wasnt in love like a couple should be so we broke it off. ive been through it tho. if you ever need advice, just hit me up. best of luck

Answer 9

yes you can love your husband or wife but not really be in love with them you have to decide on that one for yourself only you can answer that question

Answer 10

Yes I do...Im there already...3 years in the making.
Love but not in love.

Answer 11

i think its possible. i love my dog. not the way i love my kids. for some marriages you love things about them. but the flame just isn't there anymore. i think love comes in many forms