Which age should at most have a woman for a first child?

Question

Please only serious answers, it's not a question just to pass time.

Answer 1

This is an interesting question. There are several answers.
1. Sometime before menopause would be good.
2. Sometime before about 40 it gets a little harder to conceive and the chances for certain problems start to increase significantly.
3. They used to say that over 30 was risky. That has been pushed up quite a bit to 36 or 40.
4. If you want to be very young for the grandkids, then you might start in your 20's. The most common age for first children these days is 26.

On the flip side, we have the "what is the lowest age a woman should have her first baby?" question.
1. Sometime after about 18 or 20, the body is pretty much ready for children. Things are more risky before that.
2. Sometime after the mother to be is in a financially and emotionally stable atmosphere would be good. This might be in the 20's or in the 30's.
3. The baby should come after the mother is emotionally able to take care of it. Sometimes this age never comes.
4. Many women are now starting careers, then having their children. This lets them enjoy the "good life", as well as "become somebody" before the kids get there to slow things down.

Answer 2

There are so many answers to that question. It differs from person to person emotionally. But physically between the ages of 18 - 30 is best. I am talking just healthwise here. From the age of 30 risks are incresed for every year. For conception, and a healthy baby. The older you get there is a greater chance of genetic disorders occuring. As well you have tothink about the well being of the child. I see newsabout 45 - 50 even 60 year olds having the first child. The body at that point his hard hit to cope and think about the child when they hit teen years they are in their late 60's. Trying to cope with the emtional, mental and physical wellbeing of another person is hard enough when your younger. Let alone when you are physically not able to cope with the demands. Don't dismiss teenage mothers it again depends on the person. In my family we on average have our first child by 18 or 19 with a few earlier. Every one are happy, healthy children. I was 19 and more than able to handle a child, and happy to have one. I am now 10 years married with a third baby on the way. I am not saying that it is easy but at 30 I definately notice that this pregnancy is alot harder onme than the others.

Believe me when I say there is no right or wrong answer to this. Only what is best for you and your situation. If you are ready in your heart and will love your child unconditionally and are prepared for the work and often hardship in some cases than do what you feel is right for you.

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Answer 3

This can only be answered by the "woman", herself. You have to ready for such a commitment. You have to be ready to provide all your time and attention, atleast for the first few months, to get that bonding, quality time. Then it's a supply and demand life for a few years. A child requires alot. Not just food, shelter, clothes, etc. They require, or maybe they demand love, affection, understanding, patience, kindness, stability, loyalty, you get what I mean. They don't come into this world by choice, we, bring them in. I myself, was ready to start having children, mentally, by the age of 17. I married at 18, and had my first at 20. I had a job, and a place to live, and could provide for that child. My husband unfortunately, was no ready for that responsability. So after our 2nd child, we divorced, and I had to raise the 2 on welfare, and the help of my parents. Just remember, not everything works out perfect. The one thing that may 2 never lacked was LOVE. I may have been on my own with 2 kids, but I never gave up on them. They didn't ask for this life that was dealt to them, so I had to take care of them the best I could. Their now 15, 14, and doing just fine. I have since remarried, and had 2 more children. I am very happy reguardless of my troubles in the past. I would only reccomend having children when you are mature enough to not just say that you would do anything for them, but are ready to show it. Be sure, be loving, kind, and forgiving. They will push you to the end of your rope. Just be READY! God bless you and your decision.

Answer 4

Well the best time in a woman's life that her fertility is at its peak and her body is best suited to adapt to pregnancy would be in my opinion anywhere in her 20's (preferrable mid to late). This is strictly the physical part of it. Now mentally is another story.

Depending on your age and if you have a job and supports should also dictate whether you are ready for a baby. Out of school, and in a commited relationship would also aid in the health of the mother and her mental well being (we all know college students eat crap lol(no offence to college students)).

If you are thinking about having a baby, go through the proper channels.... get checked out by your Ob/Gyn, get any and all dental work completed, start taking pre natal vitamins, eat right, and stop smoking (thats just what ever doc says). Good Luck!

Answer 5

I had my first at 21. This said, no matter what anyone tells you you're never gonna be 'ready and together', you'll never have enough money, and there is no 'right' age to give birth. Ultimately, it has to be a decision that is not entered into lightly.

I feel having my children younger gives me more energy to do things with them. I don't wanna be 70 teaching my kids to drive. ;) If you're doubting things, don't let it cloud your decision. Noone is given a parenting manual, you just learn as you go. What you may think is not enough to offer a child may be the world for them. I hope this gives you some ideas to work with. =)

Answer 6

At most? About 35-40 years old...after that it becomes dangerous for a woman, I think.
This doesn't mean that if you're older you can't have kids, it only means that you have a higher risk of something going wrong. Anyway, just think about it...if you have your kid at 35 years old...you'll be about 50+ when they go through the teenage years..do you really want to deal with that at that age!
I wish you the best of luck if you're more mature, and are thinking of having a baby.

Answer 7

I say when the woman is happily married and has a career which brings in enough money to support an extra person in the house ..its not good to wait until after the age of 35 because of complications and more misscariges happen at this age...

Basically like 25,26,27

Answer 8

That depends on the woman, I had mine at 18, 20 and 23.
But my daughter had her first one at 27. The woman and her
HUSBAND or serious partner should both be ready for a child.
I do not believe having children out of wedlock. They deserve better.

Answer 9

my opinion is tht there is no right time, its ridiculous how people disgrace young woman with the oh you cant have a baby youre so young meanwhile back in the days these same peoples relatives were having kids at 12 and married..there is not an appropriate age though it might help if you have established yourself in a good relationship with someone you know and trust and love( no druggies, alcoholics,and woman beaters or murderers..)

Answer 10

Mid 20's for most people. I had my daughter at 20, but I have been married since I was 18 and we planned the pregnancy. There are too many irresponsible, unmarried girls having kids.