who should be in the delivery room?

Question

i have an idea of how i would like my birth to go. i think that since the woman is the one giving birth and going through all the action that it should be her choice and to who makes her comfortable in the room. i want my mom, grandma, best friend and fiance. my fiance wants his mom there, but i think its about me, and not making her feel better if she wants to be there. opinions please

Answer 1

I think 4 is too many. I had my husband and mom for the 13 hour labor, then just mom for the delivery. My husband did not want to see it, and I did not blame him. My mom is an RN and did great. I had mom on right, other nurse on left, and doc down south........that was all I needed or wanted.

DO NOT have your soon to be mother-in-law there if you are not comfortable. mine camped in the waiting room and was there for my hubby when I was delivering. but labor and delivery is a vulnerable time........you will scream, you will cry, you will be naked from the waist down, and there is a chance you will poop on the table while pushing.....this is all a normal part of childbirth. but NOT something you will want an audience for. I love my husnabd with all my heart, but I did not want him to see me like that. And he did not want to see it either. but My mother and the other nurse were the best.......

It is a persaonl choice. Just follow your gut......it is your birth. you call the shots......

Answer 2

Although this question should be basically up to you and your fiance.... Since you asked anyway, I wi;; give you my opinion. I would have to say just have your fiance video tape the birth and if anyone is interested in seeing it (or you want them to at this point) then do that. This way no one gets their feelings hurt and you don't get embarresed b/c it can get UGLY in there. Words of advice.. you may or may not get along with your future child's g-maother, but don't ever shut the door or do something from potentially damaging your relationship. Raising babies are fun, but you will also like to have your fun and who better to keep your kids than grandparents. I am 27 years old and my mother-in-law is AWESOME! In the beg it was rough, but I am glad I did not say anything to damage our great relationship now! Although it is totally up to you I would def only have my fiance in the room! Hope this helps

Answer 3

Your fiance is also having a baby remember ? Although everything really depends on YOU, i'm just saying that sometimes you have to make a sacrifice for the people you love. I'm just thinking that denying your future mother in law from the delivery room, especially considering that you have 4 other people in there, could easily be the cause of problems for both of you in the future. This is an equally exciting time for him too, and I feel that he'd appreciate your openness with regards to his mother, don't you think ?

Congratulations ! Ultimately, this is your time. What's most important is that BOTH of you share in this great time.

Answer 4

Although it is the fiance's baby as well, for God's sake, you're the one who has to push it out for however many hours! Don't let anyone pressure you into making a decision out of guilt. Your baby's birth only comes once.

If it's going to cause friction between the two of you (which is never good), then perhaps you might want to consider letting her come in, but maybe have her not be in the room when you get ready to push; coming back in once the baby is out and you're covered. Whatever you chooose I wish you and your baby the best. =)

Answer 5

Do you not like his mom? Well, you should be able to come to some sort of compromise. While you may be uncomfortable having her in the room, keep in mind it is the birth of her grandbaby. Is there a way she'd be able to watch from a distance you wouldn't be bothered by? Maybe she could be off to the side? If you're not gonna want her to be in there for the birth maybe let her come in as soon as the baby comes out.

Answer 6

You should have the people that you feel comfortable with. you don't want people that will make u nerves becouse it could complcate the delivery. u also need to check with ur doc to see how many people are allowed in the delivery room with u.
where I live there can be only three. and be sure to walk alot my wife walked around the store that i worked at for 8 hours before she gave birth and she had only a 30 min delivery with no drugs and that was with our first born

p.s. if u don't want his mom there don't let her know that u went in to labor until its to late for her to make it on time

Answer 7

If the guy who went with the aid of hard paintings does not voice her desires, the mil won't comprehend extra effective. i comprehend that I initially deliberate for my mil to circulate away the transport room when I went into hard paintings, although, with the aid of that ingredient i did no longer care. Afterwards I asked her to circulate away to grant my babe & I some on my own time... frequently, it relies upon who's traveling. If this is community buddies & kinfolk i'd say everywhere between an hour or 2. If this is human beings from out of city i'd say it relies upon on how long you experience soft with & could be longer than in simple terms an hour or 2.

Answer 8

Don't let anyone in there who you don't feel totally comfortable with--it can actually impede your pushing if you aren't totally comfortable. Also, have a code word with your guy or the nurse that means get everyone out now! You won't know for sure until it is actually happening who you will want with you and what will make you comfortable. It's not about other peoples feelings--its about yours!

Answer 9

You are right, it has to do with what makes you feel comfortable.I myself had my 3 childern in a hospital with just my husband,and l don't regret it.My sister had a baby on Friday night,it was her third, her first she had her partner and 2 close friends,her second she had her partner, my mum, and 2 close friends,(and in the first 2 in hospital) her third she had at home, with her parnter, the midwife,3 close friends,my mum,and l turned up as the placenta was coming out,It was truely amazing.I don't know if it's that l wasn't in the country for her fisrt 2,but l am just overwelmed on how my beutiful and amazing my neice is.Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 10

I think you should have anyone there who will make you more comfortable while going through labor and birth....Its your decision but if your fiance wants his mother there then you should think about that too I mean it is also his baby he did part of it to make it is is also his mother's grandchild.