What should i do?

Question

I feel like I am married to a teenager.My husband of 2yrs and this is our 2nd marriage is always either playing on computer or watching movies and he is unemplyed and top everything off we had to move in with his parents.And find myself think about my Ex and I have express this to him before and even told him I going to divorce you for the computer games and he thinks I am joking. Here lately find myself flirting and thinking of other men..whats the deal HELP.. Erica from ga

Answer 1

YOU ALREADY KNOW! IT'S TIME TO GO.

Answer 2

Draw a square box and divide it into quarters. Write: Now!, Do., want/need, rest/re coop. Start together and write in each quadrant and read what you have. As in need/want quarter, you would write 4 hrs. per day with husband's only attention. He might write 2 hrs. on computer. You could counter with 2 hour only with both of you. Rest/re coop: Is the most important and each should get equal time. Now! put in this quadrant Job.
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You want the quadrants to balance equally.
Write an agreement based on 3 months. It has to be one page and everyone must see it and sign it and refer to it. First month: requirements: job or counseling and $100 to folks for upkeep.
second month: job and counseling and $200 to folks for upkeep.
third month: job and counseling and $300 to folks for upkeep.
Put a date on each month and the price goes up ea. month and then at the end of 3 months you two must move out. THE DEADLINE. and when you have a teenager that won't get off the computer.... take the power cord and hide it. Also when you are on the computer together... search for jobs. grin.

Answer 3

Oh hunny, im am soooooooooo sorry to say this but you really droppesd your self in with a rite one here didnt you! If you have tried to sit down and talk to him and i dont mean like just saying to him :look love i can not live like this anymore etc, i mean REALLY sit him down and have one of them proper long talks with him explaining exactly how you are feeling,and what you need from him etc, and if this is what you have done already and he is still like the way you have stated above then i really dont think you need to be told, deep down i think you already know the answer to this question i just think that you are asking for advice on this because you love him and you want to believe that all is fine and going well, but it make's it easier when you ask people you do not know about these kinds of situations. But anyway you can do sooooo much better than this (sorry) loser that you are with. I know marraige is for life (death till you part etc etc) but do you seriously see your self living like this with this man in say 10years time? If you really do love him and leaving him is a total last resort then why don't you go away for a few weeks or so and say to him that you are going away because you think that you2need time apart as you dont feel that he appericiates you and that you just dont feel that he loves you anymore,and that you can not live like you are for much longer,also you need to explaion to him that IF you do decide to come back you want to see that he has done something to try to improve the situationetc etc etc. Or if you really have enough and you seriously do feel that you can no way take any more of this behavior and way of life then you want to pack all of your stuff up together, get some one to pick it up or you take it wherever or put it in your car (or whatever you are doing with it), then just tell him that you really need to talk to him rite at that very moment,and if he moans about it, what ever he is doing just interfere with what ever it is,and stand rite in front of him and just blatently come out with it and say I am leaving you rite now, and that you want a divorce and that he can expect the papers very shortly(even if you havent even got a solicater at that point-it's just to really get him to listen properly,and take you seriously)Tell him that you have packed your stuff and that you are on your way NOW. I know this sounds harsh but try not to show him that you are upset when you are doing this too, it might make him think a little.

Answer 4

Honey staight up DIVORCE him but fouck with his mental hang out with your guy freinds for a couple weeks okay and start dating with other men in your life as soon as you find another man to be with then give him the DIVORCE papers okay?

Answer 5

you need a real man. sorry if you love him, but it's true. tell him to call you when he grows up if you're even still around. maybe he'll get the point. refuse to even see him until he has his own place and holds down a job. he'll thank you in the long run, even if you don't get back together with him.

Answer 6

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THE SAYING....I CAN SHOW YOU BETTER THAN I CAN TELL YOU? DARLING, DON'T TALK ABOUT IT! BE ABOUT IT! HE'S SHOWING YOU WHAT AND HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU! IT SHOULD BE PAINFULLY OBVIOUS TO YOU THAT HE COMFORTABLE W/ HIS LIFE AND DOESN'T WANT MORE FOR SELF OR HIS MARRIAGE.
CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL, THEN GO AND DO THE DARN THING! YOU SHOULD FEEL THAT YOU ARE WORTH MORE TO SELF AND SOMEONE ELSE THAT CAN SHOW YOU WHAT IT IS TO APPRECIATE A GOOD WOMAN!

Answer 7

jone i would be gone my husband loves to watch movies and play video games as well but he holds a full time job. take care of yourself first do't let him take you down

Answer 8

This guy sounds like a real loser. Married and living with his parents? Ohhh NOOOO- You gotta ago!

Answer 9

he sounds like he has peter pan syndrome, if its so bad that you are getting interested in other people, then its time for you guys to have a serious talk, if hes not willing to leave never-never land, then leave him the hell alone

Answer 10

I think he is foolish.I would love to have a girl that wants attention and forget this thing.

Answer 11

MARRIED ONCE AND DIDNT LEARN???? GO YOUR SEPERATE WAYS. AND DONT GET MARRIED AGAIN.