My buddy called and his wife has asked him to leave after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids. He has been the hommaker while she went through Med school, and now, the same week she moves into a million dollar house and starts her practice, she kicks him to the curb. And kept the kids. Where does he begin? He still loves her despite some disagreements. There is no abuse or anything here, just this injustice. I don't know what to tell him, but it aint good.
2006-08-06 12:47:45 · 16 answers · asked by Jester 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*He's an engineer and worked first, saved money, then it went to her school while he stayed home with the kids. She did not want him to work.
2006-08-06 12:59:42 · update #1
Get a good lawyer.
2006-08-06 12:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by HERMOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be hard for engineers (especially one who has been out of the market for so long) to find employment. But that is what he should do.
As far as custody of the children, the divorce court would make that decision if he wants the kids. Then she'll have to pay child support and possibly alimony.
This is a turn-around: Unless it's an urban legend, I've heard often of women (nurses or office workers) who put their husbands through medical school and then are dumped.
2006-08-06 13:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your friend may not be telling you the whole story. Sometimes people only tell you their part of the story, you never know what happens behind closed doors. There could have been lots of problems. Who worked in this house if he was a homemaker and she went to school? Did she want him to work instead of just taking care of the kids? Taking care of the kids isn't exactly putting her though school so what was his part REALLY? They are still his kids and someone had to take care of them and he shouldn't get extra points for being a parent.
I wouldn't get involved. You never know you could give your opinion and they get back together and then he hates you for all the things you've said.
2006-08-06 12:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs a good lawyer so that he can get as much alimony as possible for the rest of his life. Tell him to find the most expensive one he can afford; good lawyers are worth the cost (trust me, OJ Simpson, and Michael Jackson on this one).
To insure the alimony keeps coming, tell your friend to NEVER re-marry. He needs to just stay single and cash his checks!
And he should let her have the kids. That way, he won't have to pay child support.
Wow. What a financial payday!!!!!! This story certainly has a bright side.
2006-08-06 13:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Turd Ferguson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I don't know what to say either. She is a REAL BIT*CH!!!! That is a horrible thing to do to someone! I am sure he is very hurt. He needs to let her go. Trying to fight for the marriage will just hurt him more. He needs to divorce her and make sure he gets alimony! He is entitled to half of what she earns because he supported her all this time and they have been married 10 years. Make sure he gets a good divorce lawyer. He can also get at least joint custody of the children. He needs to get rid of her. No one needs a spouse like that!
2006-08-06 13:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called support, wether she likes it or not he supported the home through her schooling so know he is entiltled to a piece of her pie (of course subject to local law).
Divorce is the 'new' thing it seems like never mind that couples made a sacred vow for better or worse lots of couples still act like they are in high school and are going to 'break up'. Never mind the impact on society and the children.
Sorry for your buddy hope he gets a piece of her success since he invested all of his efforts into it.
2006-08-06 12:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by worldwideemtff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just awful for him to support her for all of those years and then for her to do that to him. i suspect your buddy's wife isnt going to be paying that million dollar house note on her on. she has hooked up with another doctor and feels they are no longer in the same tier. hopefully everything works out for your buddy. oh and by the way, tell him to file for spousal support, after all she was the primary bread winner. in the end she might realize that it would be cheaper to keep him!
2006-08-06 12:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by iprefersatinsheets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know how women feel who get his position all the time. I mean this happens to women all the time. Now it is happening to a man and it just isn't right. That woman is an asshole. To say the least.
2006-08-06 12:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody ever said life was fair. That sucks. He needs a really good lawyer. If he's lucky she'll end up paying for it for him.
2006-08-06 12:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your buddy got the hose. Nuff said.
2006-08-06 13:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 00:39:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋