Why do i reject people, the love that my family offers i reject it, people who want to get to know me, i rejec

Answer 1

You probably use aloofness as a means of security so as not to risk getting hurt, emotionally.

You can overcome this by trying, one at a time, to reach out. It is hard, but just do as much as you're comfortable with, a bit at a time.

I know because I use aloofness as a security measure also. I find it very hard to make small-talk in certain settings with people I don't know. I have to make a concerted effort to get to know people.

Answer 2

Here's my guess, based on life experience: You reject others because of how you feel about yourself. You feel that you are not worthy of being loved and that if people really get to know you they will reject you, so you reject them first to protect yourself. You also do not feel capable of reciprocating the love that others might give you. You end up feeling isolated and empty, which only confirms the low opinion you have of yourself.

What can you do? You can take the risk of opening yourself up to a relationship with someone. You can try to discover the value in yourself. Maybe you can't do this all on your own. A counselor might be of help. You do not like the way you are living, or you would not have posted this question. You are worthy of love, because every person is. You are also capable of giving love. If you are not happy within yourself, you need to begin taking risks, even if you face occasional rejection and hurt. Your attempt to protect yourself from pain is causing you to live a life of pain. You need to open yourself up to the potential for joy. I hope that you can find the courage to begin to do this, because it will totally transform your life.

Answer 3

Was one parent not there and the other emotionally indifferent to you.. I assume you mean your family you have now, you reject their love. I struggle with the same problem. When I was a teenager I was quite (supposedly) wild, now I tend to be a bit of a loner. I have had experiences where I have trusted and loved people to be betrayed and hurt. So now I probably protect myself from anymore hurt and stay at a distance. Step by step you have to at least try and reach out to people and realize there are good people out there, forget the bad..
The question you are asking now means you are ready to open up slowly and let people finally in. Whatever has happened in the past should not dictate how you are now. If you are not happy with your life make moves little by little till you change it, only you can do it no one else can for you.
Most of all love your family they are the one most important precious thing in your life. Bring them in and love them, don't shut them out like someone once rejected you. Life is too short.

Answer 4

It is possible that you have an issue with trusting people. To accept love means to trust people. I think that perhaps you may have some bad experience from the past that have traumatized you subconsciously. You may remember something from your past or maybe you don't but rejecting others usually stems from an bad experience. It can stem from physical/sexual abuse to people not keeping their promises but all in all..... you are the only one that can bring healing to your life and if this is the case where I am correct.... you can start by being opposite of those that had hurt you in the past. Become a better person then they and treat people better than you were treated.

Have a good life

Answer 5

If you reject first you have no fear of being rejected. and what was said before me the use of drugs not prescribed to you can also make you paranoid.... If it is drugs your family loves you either way go to them and tell them you love them and you just don't know how to deal with whatever you are dealing with school...... Accept their help I also seen church was mentioned above and that is a great place to make the right kind of friends. I wish you luck and pray you talk to your parents and work these feelings out good luck:-) your friend
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Answer 6

I did the same thing, and sometimes still do. I've learned that it's because I've wanted, and needed, closeness and unconditional love all of my life. I never got it, until I learned how to love myself. You're afraid of being hurt, because you're afraid of rejection. You believe down deep that you'll be rejected, 'no matter who'. Please talk to someone. You do deserve to be loved.

Answer 7

I do the same sh*t. Isn't it ridiculous? I think it has to do with a low self-esteem and not feeling like you deserve things. It's self punishment. I've found it to actually be pretty common.

Answer 8

ITS JUST A COPING MECHANISM, REALIZE THAT NO ONE IS PERFECT AND THEY PROBALY WILL HURT YOUR FEELINGS OR DISAPPOINT YOU IN SOME WAY, IT'S JUST A PART OF LIFE--IT'S THAT SIMPLE REALLY. MAYBE DEEP DOWN YOU MIGHT NOT REALLY TRUST YOURSELF INSTEAD OF THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU--WHO KNOWS. BY DOING THIS YOU MIGHT END A VERY LONELY PERSON IF YOU CANT TRY TO CONNECT WITH SOMEONE THOUGH.

Answer 9

Maybe ur just afraid to love. But to love is the most wonderful feeling and its free to give. Dont be afraid, try giving it now, it will make ur life very fulfilling if u know how to love and appreciate ppl that loves u. Love is a gift dont keep it to urself - share it to everyone specially to the ones who loves u. God bless.

Answer 10

Because you don't love yourself and think you don't deserve it. Ask God for help.

Are you using drugs? That's what I did when I was using.

Good luck and God Bless.