Believe it or not, the BIBLE tells women, and men, to not withhold sex, at least during marriage.
1Cor. 7:3-5 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife. DO NOT DEPRIVE EACH OTHER EXCEPT BY MUTUAL CONSENT AND FOR A TIME, SO THAT YOU MAY DEVOTE YOURSELVES TO PRAYER. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Paul writes this because he knows humanity and relizes that by withholding sex, either the husband or the wife is inviting infidelity.
IF YOU WANT TO REBUT/ARGUE, DO NOT RETORT WITH THE NEXT LINE. PAUL is simply happy with the way he is, unmarried, but God made us to be married. Paul's concession is that not everyone can be expected to live as he does.
2006-08-06 12:44:42 · 16 answers · asked by es_harper2007 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yeah, I knew that. It may invite infidelity but its still no excuse for it. I knew a lady who married a man and only did it to him once, their wedding night. After that, she told him she wasn't having sex with him anymore because it's "too nasty." Someone's mom didn't have the sex talk with them I see! How could you not know what all comes along with having sex, the juices, the stains, the smells, sometimes pain, lol, I mean my god. So the man did used to cheat and he had a good alibi, he's a cab driver so he could just do whatever he wanted, when he wanted. He'd be seen coming out of hotel rooms with other women and when some would ask him what he was doing, he'd say he was buying jewelry. Such a lame excuse, but the withholding wife couldn't blame anyone but herself. I think most people probably withhold nowadays if the other person isn't good and they're too wimpy or embarrassed to help their mate achieve their bedroom potential. I happen to love sex with my husband, I never turn him away!
2006-08-06 13:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by duvaldiva.com 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Actually...it's just an advisory thing. See...if you actually read the entire chapter (cough, cough...sniff, sniff), you would find that Paul gives the command...not God. Neither does Paul say that this is a commandment from God. After Paul gives his "command", he lists his reason...which you neglected to finish off in caps up top. Read what you wrote... 'Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." What Paul is essentially saying is: "dudes...you're married...just have sex so that you don't go and cheat on each other for it". I'm a guy and totally for that standpoint (of course). But it's the totally wrong standpoint. This is not a commandment of God but rather a warning from Paul that not having sex could cause one or the other to fall into sin by looking elsewhere for it. And you can't really argue that until you show me where God says HiIMSELF that husbands and wives should not withold from each other.
2006-08-06 12:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Darling32103 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with that. However it should be consensual it should be forced upon the woman or man and it shouldn't be guilt lead either. Such as making reference to the Bible about it. I completely understand where your coming from I do agree that it's wrong to withhold sex from your spouse as though it was a punishment and the reward for being "good" is sex. It's weird to even do something such as that. Sex isn't a toy for kids, it isn't something you should deprive a spouse of. It should be consensual, mutual and pleasurable.
2006-08-06 12:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see your question, I am almost 50 and My believe is that infidelity happens when there is a breakdown in the commuciation, emotional support, etc.. So my question is if you have that handy dandy black book still it is wrong for men to hold back the money honey
2006-08-06 12:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by mpwflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you must understand that the bible was written by a bunch of horney old monks sitting in their church wishing they had a warm female body to expend their seed into instead of wasting their seed onto the soil of the earth.
2006-08-06 12:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes i have heard/read this in the bible too and also belive that marrige is a give and take with all things including sex!
2006-08-06 12:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by tcb4dakids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes i did know that. If you are married then it is wrong to withhold sex. If you are not then you aren't supposed to have sex until you are.
2006-08-06 12:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by misomeow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does that apply with gay women and men too who are married? BTW cool question.
2006-08-06 13:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by rosepassions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! Respect goes a long way to encourage it!
2006-08-06 12:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by get_fit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the truth, and I was aware. You should obviously not have sex at all if you are NOT married.
2006-08-06 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋