My friend from high school came over last week and she was instant messaging a guy friend of hers who I always thought was really cute, but he is a jerk, so I never really talked to him much. I talked to him briefly though and he asked for my screen name, ever since then we've been talking quite a bit on myspace and instant messenger. HE has been the one messaging me first most of these times. So I finally decided I wanted to get together with some friends (these are his friends also) I invited him to go and he just sat there for a while. Out of embarrasment, I quickly told him I had to go and that I'd like an answer. He just told me that we will talk later. He was watching a movie at the time, so maybe my timing was off. He does have a girl friend, so that might be why he was hesitant, but he hangs out with girls all the times (as friends) Do you think I came on too strong/asked him too soon?
What could I do/have done differently? Should I say I want to be just friends?
2006-08-06 12:19:33 · 11 answers · asked by thrashthemic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The problem is that you asked him only and not him and his girl friend. This immediately implies that you wanted just him there and was looking for something more than friendship. Of course I don't think it is proper that he has been talking to you so much since he has a girl friend but who knows for sure why that is. Regardless, you kind of backed him into a corner and should have left well enough alone. If he wanted to spend time with you beyond just chatting then he will say so. You opened the door, now the rest is up to him.
2006-08-07 03:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you came on too strong. You both have mutual friends and it is a nice gesture to invite him to hang out with the group. As long as you respect the fact that he does have a girlfriend and you are not trying to break them up. I do not think you should say anything. Continue with the plan to hang out with these friends (with or without him). That way he will know you were planning a group thing, if you feel he may have gotten the wrong message.
2006-08-06 12:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by dharrasunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a jerk and already has a girlfriend, why do you want him? Wait for someone better, and just let things ease away on their own. If he's really interested, he'll bring the subject up and you can say what you need to say then, but if he doesn't say anything, then let the subject drop and move on with your life. There's someone wonderful out there for you, you don't have to settle on a jerk who's already taken.
2006-08-06 12:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend. That says you should BACK OFF. He's an asshole for coming onto you while he has a g/f, but you're just as much of an asshole for accepting his advances. Grow up.
2006-08-06 12:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the last 6 words from your question to get your answer... ...
Don't be a home-wrecker...
This should actually be a lesson to you because this shows you what he may potentially do to you if you were his girl...
2006-08-06 12:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you should wait until he is single. it's like Dr. Drew says on LOVELINE...when a guy likes you, he'll come around and he'll let you know. just be his friend until he's single. it'll make you look better, and honestly if he's got a girl and he is flirting with you and wanting to be wth you.. he doesn't know how to treat women.
2006-08-06 12:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mango Monkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun he has a girlfriend. you should have waited for him to be single. becasue imagine if someone did that to you. i think hes into his girlfirnd and not you. and you did say he talks to other girls too so he probably doesnt think much of you.
2006-08-06 12:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible that he thought you were asking to get together as more than friends, and just didnt know how to reply, i would just reassure him that you just wanted to know if he wanted to hang out, even bring his girl if that would ease his mind.
2006-08-06 12:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by s_peach23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't interested in you as a girlfriend, he already has one.
2006-08-06 12:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you came way to strong
2006-08-06 12:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋