Shouldn't your spouce tell you where she is going when she is mad at you?

Question

I think wether your mad you should still tell where your going. She wanted to get out and have time to herself.

We haven't gone to church in a long while and my wife tired to wake me up but couldn't get up. She then said fine I am going to church. I don't see nothing wrong if I want to stay at home and relax and catch up on some sleep.

She then came back was mad and started to clean house. Now this is the thing with me with her. It seems like she only cleans the house when she is mad. She started to say that the place is a mess and that I am taking advantage of her. I do admit that I haven't done my part in cleaning I have been sick and haven't been myself to do it. I am getting better now and I will start to do it.

I was trying to make her realize how the place gets if I dont clean. I sometimes spend time picking up her stuff from the floor and putting it on her side of the closet. I try to be the organizer in the relationship but seems like she just can't keep up.

Answer 1

I better not touch this issue with a ten foot pole, because
I do the same thing she does!
When I am angry with my fellow--BECAUSE
he will not communicate with me,
instead of throwing dishes in his direction,
I just put my energy into cleaning so at least there is something positive to SHOW for the mad energy expended.
I know he is not going to help and I get just as weary as he does--working just as much as he does outside the home.
I get so tired of picking up after him ALL the time,
just because
I don't want to live in a pig pen.
Everything is always about HIM,
how HE feels,
what HE wants,
and most of the time--there is no me.
It makes me feel like crap because he never asks or focuses on just me. It is always the television.
Escape artist extraordinaire!
Pay your wife some extra attention--make it about HER
and you might see a big switch!!!

Answer 2

I think if Christ was first in your marriage you would go to church every week. And if you do have to miss, don't beat your self up either. This is just a start, it would strengthen your marriage to be in a couples bible study as well. Read love languages for couples, and Boundaries. Get counsling, and pray for your wife. Give her space, and when she needs to be alone, don't ask her where she's going. You also deserve alone time, and should be trusted to be mature and leave the house and have space. Learn how to communicate, and let go of the small stuff. Remember why you were first attracted to her, and except her faults, love her right where she's at. God bless Shelly

Answer 3

What does the rest of your rant have to do with the question?? The fact is you have your side and she has hers and I'm sure the truth lies somewhere in between. You two better find a way to meet in the middle or you're going to find you're not picking up after anyone but yourself!

Answer 4

Yes, she should be more considerate, but after all she is a woman, can't expect miracles. As for cleaning up, throw her chit out, maybe then she'll start doing her share. You should talk to her about all the b*tching, that gets old.

Answer 5

Dude, it takes two people to argue. So when she starts, just don't say anything back. If she purposedly wants an aruguement, she's going to need another person to arugue with. As for when she gets mad and needs her time or space, just leave her alone.

Answer 6

You sound like a lazy egomaniacal jerk.