Woudl you want your inlaws to visit you in the hospital the day your baby is born?

Question

or would you prefer they wait until you got home? Just taking an informal quiz here. thanks

Answer 1

NO!! I had two children, both by c-section and my husband, my parents, my in laws and my brother in law and his GIRLFRIEND and my sister in law were all in the room about an hour after my surgery was done. They stayed for hours. I had to start crying to get them to leave the first time.
the second time I told my husband no visitors on the day of the c-section - well of course same gang was in until I begged the nurse (in private) to make them all leave!!!
How pushy!!!!

Answer 2

they are your child's grandparents and have just as much right to be at the hospital as your parents.... truthfully neither grandparents should be in the delivery room......they can see the baby shortly after the birth..... which is a most private and special moment between you and your baby's father (i can' t imagine that any of them were needed or present at the baby's conception, right?!) ..... (... all the hospital personnel are just doing their jobs and making sure you and your baby are ok..... most of them are happy to be part of your joy at bringing a new life into the world and will disappear as soon as the job is done....) the hospital is the perfect place for everyone to come and visit because there are rules and limits which the hospital places on visiting for which you can't be held responsible and which you don't have to enforce .... think a little further ahead here .... on the day that you go home with the new baby, you three will want some time to yourselves to begin your new lives as a family .... and to figure out how to handle your new baby.... and set your own routine.... make sure you read, talk to your doctor and the baby's pediatrician ahead of time so you know what to expect, and make sure that you are all set up and ready.... that's a good time to get both sets of grandparents involved.... let them help you set up before delivery and they will feel part of this happy and wonderful event.... then you can honestly say that you are tired and would like to rest for one day and adjust to having the new little one at home since everything has been done ahead of time..... and you can ask everyone not to come until the second day when you have a better handle on things, have time to take care of yourself and make yourself presentable and are feeling better.... nature and instinct take over automatically so don't be afraid... and help is only a phone call away..... the bottom line is, once the baby is born the attention will be diverted from you to the baby.... so take care of yourself and make an effort to get dressed (yes indeed!!)fix your hair and put on makeup .. you will feel better if you do and no one will have anything to say except how amazing you are!! best wishes

Answer 3

Hospital

Answer 4

What is the harm ?

I mean seriously if were up to alot of us.. for the inlaws we would def say no way ...

the thing is.. it is easier to have them come to the hospital because they have to leave LOL... and if they come there.. chances are they wont come to your house and bother you for the first week LOL... because when they do come, they won't want to leave if they come when your home.. and you will have to be a witch and ask them to leave LOL

Trust me,..... I hated my inlaws and wanted them to never ever come near my babies... I was so mad to find out that my MIL had been in the delivery room while I was having my first... UGH...yucko... but I was so out of it I had no clue during...

I mean remember to if you want your privacy in the hospital if they come and visit, just say so ,.. say I need to feed him can you give us some time aloone or something... be subtle but firm...

I say deal with it the day he is here so they will leave you alone afterwards LOL

Answer 5

This is all about personal preference as well as HOW your having your baby. Me personally I had my son vaginally and had my husband, mother and mother in law all in the room with me. However If you have your child C-section you might not be up to visitors for awhile afterwards. I think that they SHOULD visit IN the hospital even if only for a min.

Answer 6

I have a very close relationship with my in-laws, so of course I wanted them at the hospital the day that I gave birth. Even if I wasn't close, they are still the parents of my husband and the grandparents of my child, so unless I was telling my parents to stay away as well, it wouldn't be right to tell them to wait to see the baby.

Answer 7

not that day! maybe the next day. when i had my baby my fiancee's mom didn't come to visit. it was fine that way. the only person in the room during the delivery was my fiancee and the only other people there afterward was my mom and sister. and that was more than enough. after delivery you don't want a bunch of people to visit. you need to rest, it's hard work. hell, if my mother in law forced her way into the delivery room i would sit up and scream at her and refuse to push until one of the nurses dragged her out by her hair. that would drive me nuts. but then again i didn't even want my own mother in the delivery room with me, so maybe i'm just weird. lol.

Answer 8

Personally I didn't want to see anyone at the time and I don't really remember who was at the hospital after my son was born. You are VERY tired and doped up so I would wait until the next day or so before you go...but that's my experience.

Answer 9

If your inlaws don't show up, they are insensitive. If you don't want them there to see their grandchild, you are insensitive. Believe me, they should visit. And you wont care either, after you've exposed yourself to all hospital personel that you dont even know, just having the baby!!! But whether they should be in the birthing room is your personal choice.

Answer 10

Did I want them to? NO. Did they? YES. The one thing I can say I'm thankful for (two things, actually) is that they all scrubbed their hands at our request, and kept the visits brief. My husband and I had a rule after we brought our sons home after their respective births...NO visitors for a week to allow us to become accustomed to each other, have the babies get used to their new surroundings, etc. After that, sure...but call first. If we don't answer we're either sleeping or busy, so don't just swing by. Keep calling until you get us.