i told my boyfriend about the man who asked me if i would accept him as a husband
my boyfriend wants to stay for 2 years without marriage but i am not so young to wait
he loves be but after i told him ...he did not call or contact me i guess he is thinking
do you think he will wish me good luck with the other man or he would think about getting married to me
2006-08-06 12:02:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
t sounds to me like you have given him an ultimatum. These usually do not produce the long term results that you would hope for, so be very careful. For example, he may decide to marry you, just so you won't marry the other one. Then, you discover, it is a unhappy union. What exactly did you win? Any relationship that you have to beg, plead or give ultimatums for, are simply not worth having. You should both want to marry because you are ready to commit, and be together. He may have his reasons for wanting to wait. Honestly, what is your rush? Get to know him better, and yourself as well. Marriage is something not to be taken lightly, so be very true to each other, and to yourselves.
2006-08-06 12:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing you've been seeing this other man behind your boyfriends back to even consider marrying him. If you love your bf you would have never brought another man into the relationship. I wouldn't blame him for leaving. You need time alone to figure out your life and what you want because you seem to eager to marry anyone that asks you. Ive been with my fiance for 14 years and we don't need to be married to be happy. Someday we will wed but for right now were just happy being together. Marriage doesn't make a reationship, love does. And from what you wrote, you've been loving more than one man. If you can't be devoted to one man then you have no right getting married at all.
2006-08-06 19:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be hurt that you chose to tell him about the other guy in such a blunt manner. He might have been thinking he was the only guy in your life -- and just the knowledge that there was some other guy might have set him off. But why would he give you a definite timeline of 2 years? That sounds kinda hinky to me.
2006-08-06 19:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy but you shouldn't want him to feel forced into marrying you and you should really decide whether your in love with the thought of marriage or if your in love with the man.
2006-08-06 19:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never use someone else to get what you want out of life...Do you really want someone to marry you if he/she is not ready. Marriage is a beatiful thing but do you want to be married to someone who does not love you enough....
good luck.
2006-08-06 19:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was just thinking should you play a part in the process either way he didn't call you again and life goes on follow your heart if you want to get married get married if you want to wait around then wait
2006-08-06 19:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by popcorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he gave you a non-verbal answer. Ultimatums are never a good idea 'cos they could backfire and it sounds like it just did.
Why play with two men's hearts? You may not be "young", but it sounds to me as if you have a lot of maturing to do.
2006-08-06 19:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by coorissee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has to be pushed into marrying you because someone else is interested, FORGET IT! You only want someone who wants you--with not other issues at hand.
Walk away.
2006-08-06 19:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he realized that you are not worth it if you don't respect and love him enough to wait.
2006-08-06 19:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks your cheating on him. You should not have told him anything about the other guy.
2006-08-06 19:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋