2006-08-06 11:51:19 · 16 answers · asked by hannahrosey 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
heart-breakingly
2006-08-06 11:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by -.- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. I've been in this situation & I've been on both sides. In junior high & high school, & beyond, for that matter, I had plenty of crushes & was also the object of many crushes. In the latter case, I usually acted like a jerk by ignoring the poor girl. In turn, I was also ignored by a lot of the girls I was sweet on. But not always. (I have sometimes joked that "friend" is another "F word".) From my experience, honesty truly is the best policy. The truth hurts sometimes, but in the long run, it's a lot less painful than having someone lead you on, only to learn later that there was never anything there. So, as someone suggested, it's better to let the person down easy, by saying that you just don't feel a connection, or something to that effect. Just be sensitive to the other's feelings.
2006-08-06 19:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With kindness. "I truely care for you as a friend. I think you are wonderful but I am not in love with you." You could add in that you want to keep your friendship. (If you want him around as a friend.)
( Don't say it to be nice because you feel bad for him. It will only hurt more later when you ignore him.)
Be careful if you decide to keep him around as a friend. It could cause a problem. He could keep his hopes that you will start to feel the same way as him.
You know his personality so you should be able to tell if he is the type who could respect your feelings and stay strictly friends or not.
Whatever you decide to do don't lead him on. I don't mean you would do this on purpose but sometimes we do it on accident. You know the old saying "Lets be friends" and then friend don't happen. "I'll call you" and then I never do. All those hurt feelings can be avoided with honesty. No matter how much the truth hurts the aftermath of lies is devasting.
2006-08-06 19:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A riddle or puzzle is always an out to save face... I didn't want to get married but have an art career but I left my options open just in case. When the man asked me to marry him, I said: Today, I won't answer you as if you ask me again I want you to understand what I want. If I marry I want 7 children and be a career mom. So when you think about it, you may have my answer only if you are prepared for what I want.
I had 18 proposals that never asked again and we remained good friends. but number 19 never hesitated and I married him. I only had 2 but he was a wonderful father and I do not regret it and I got my career later and had the whole family helped.
So think of what you really want and express it and if he/she can't offer that kind of love, then he should let you move on without anyone losing face.
2006-08-06 19:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never had the opportunity, at least i don't know, to be loved by anybody. i mean the love towards opposite sex. so i can't say for sure what i would have done in a case like this.
but, what my sense tells me is, if i don't feel the same way, then i would for sure try my best to be friendly to that person, and gradually i would let that person know by my action that, i don't feel the same.
i don't know if it would be more painfull for that person or not, but i just don't think i will directly say that i don't feel same about you, no matter how many polite ways are there for this to be done.
2006-08-06 21:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Rupai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respond with understanding and acknowledgment, but be honest about your own feelings.
Surely, if you were in the same situation, you would appreciate someone who understood how you were feeling, and who acknowledged your feelings, but who was honest with you about how they felt (in a gentle and understanding way)?
That way, both people can move on, and perhaps have a lasting friendship as a result.
2006-08-06 18:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sunny Roseman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm sorry, but I just don't feel the connection." I made it known to a guy as soon as we met and yet he still persisted. We finally went our own ways with no further complications. Sometimes honesty is better up front and right away...
2006-08-06 18:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by coorissee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the other person. I would try to be as diplomatic as possible, but make sure the message is clear. May God bless and keep you.
2006-08-06 18:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by blowry007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oppes that's kind of embarrassing .. just be polite and say sorry but and don't feel the same
2006-08-06 19:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by no0or!i!i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely but firmly.
2006-08-06 18:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With honesty and sincerity. You do not have to be mean, just honest.
2006-08-06 18:59:06 · answer #11 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋