Do you think I will have the potential to be the type of parent that hates her children? I know parents are supposed to love their children no matter what.
I've been told that I work well with children by professors. However, I'm afraid I will end up being the type of person that just hates her child. I have a younger sister (8), who grew up with very permissive parents. I have no control. I'm not allowed to discipline them, so when they kick me, lock me out of the house, tell me I'm stupid, steal my stuff etc., I just sit there and say, "Oh, please don't do that." My younger brother (6) is wonderful alone, but with his sister's influence, he's a real terror, too. I don't want to say I hate her, but it is very difficult to express any love when this child is telling me what to do and "wins." I hate it.
I'm worried that when I become a mom, I will have this hatred towards my child. I'm very scared. It's safe to say that sometimes I strongly, strongly dislike my sister.
2006-08-06 11:24:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I love kids. I mean, I'm human and get frustrated, but I love kids. I've been an ABA therapist (working with autistic children), volunteer with at-risk youth, and I have aspirations to do research in the area of psychology with children.
That's another problem. Could actually living with the child take away my love for children?
I get angry a lot with my half-sister. I have to hold it in though, and this makes it worse. I'm scared that I will become an abusive parent because of how strongly I may "hate" my child. I find that I am similar to my mother in many ways, and she did not handle her anger well at all.
Have any of you had trouble bonding with your child?
2006-08-06 11:27:33 · update #1
You are over reacting. sibling hate is common and natural. When your frontal lobes kick in you will love your half sister. As for being a unloving mother, forget the notion. When you hold that beautiful bundle wiggling and crying your motherly instincts will kick in and you will experience the most precious feeling of nourishing, love and protecting your baby. Your hisband now will become number 2 in your life etc. etc.
2006-08-06 11:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
no i haven't
it doesn't mean if u hate Ur sister and u will hate Ur child no Ur sister is different then Ur child Ur child will listen to and obey u <= sorry for that. like u sad u cant discipline her that's why she is a monster but when u will discipline her once and scream at her so hard that she will cry her life out. why don't u carry a second key of the house and lock Ur room tell Ur parents that she is annoying u and stay in Ur room when something breaks i think Ur mother will get angry why she broke something. why don't u move out? it never affects u with children the children behavior is the way they grow up and how. so don't worry
2006-08-06 11:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 13:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by bhuwan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about that but just know that you are not the only one who feels that way. I know exactly what you are talking about I go through that with my little sister too. I don't think we'd be horrible mothers though.
2006-08-06 11:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey babe its not ur fault. no offense but ur younger sister sounds like a cold hearted *****. u won't hate ur kids. no parents hate their kids. plus if i had a half sister like dat i would probably hate her n cause her life to be a livin hell. tell ur parents they need to be more strict on ur sister. plus i think ur make a good parent. good luck.
2006-08-06 11:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not hate your child. Just teach your child the way you think they should act and not allow for such bothersome behavior.
2006-08-06 11:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by newgenre1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nornmal to be frustrated talk to your parens...or lock ur room so they cant ever get in it
2006-08-06 11:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋