My man is 20 yrs older than me, we are having an issue! The age thing bothers him a bit, but we cant get enough of each other. Him being older, he has a prob staying erect, or getting erect period. It doesnt bother me, because I will just settle for being close to him and holding each other. How can I reassure we can still have a great life together without the age and impotence being an issue?
2006-08-06 11:02:06 · 30 answers · asked by monkey69 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Why would you ask a bunch of stupid kids a question like this? C'mon girl.....is this for real? The age isnt an issue.......if you love each other.......who cares if hes your dads age.........he aint your dad! But you have to know about Viagra.......Cialis....etc. How about a trio to the Dr.? You have a little bit more on the ball than the idiots you are dealing with here.
good luck and god bless you guys.
MIke
2006-08-06 11:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss New Booty and Art the Wise are both right..if you told him what you just told us and he doesn't believe you, the relationship isn't going to work anyway. Relationships are built on trust. Words don't really mean much to most people unless they're followed by actions..and this may take awhile! If all this doesn't work and he still has trouble believing, you can either move on and find someone that trusts your love, or if you can't bring yourself to leave him, talk to him about getting some Viagra. It has changed many relationships. M A N Y! Good Luck!
2006-08-06 11:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by YUM-ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
monkey69,
I'm currently 25 years old. When i was 20, i dated a man who was 40. Our relationship was good, despite age difference. I'm currently dating a man a few years younger than I am, and we are planning to be married. At one point in my life, the idea of sex was very important to me. One day, during a gathering at my home, the group got into some conversation about sex and a gentleman commented "it isn't THAT important is it?" and that very comment affected my life.
Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship... as a matter of fact, if we aren't trying to reproduce, it isn't essential at all. While sex can be comforting and a bonding part of a relationship, the activities that a couple participate in together can have a far more profound kind of support for the relationship. Couples stay together when family is more important than sex. The values of family can be far more supportive than the values of sex alone.
2006-08-06 11:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by herbalifestyle_coach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys must be really young if you think 40 year old men have lots of sex problems! They can happen to a man at any age, but it usually starts happening more in the late 50's. Also, if you aren't married, he will have a trust problem anyway because at anytime you can just walk out without even a word and he knows that.
2006-08-06 11:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having problems with erection then he should see his doctor about this. Erectile dysfunction is a common problem with older men and there are treatments for it. Men can sometimes be embarrassed about seeking help for this but reassure him that it's a common problem. Also, keep letting him know that you love him and how important he is to you. No one can be told this often enough. I think it's great that you're so supportive of him and want to help him with this.
2006-08-06 11:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by mountaingirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you are 40 or 50, it could work....at least until he dies. If you are 20 or 30, your relationship is doomed.
You are going to want a solid bone at some point in your life, so if your man can't provide that, you're probably going to cheat on him. It wouldn't be fair for HIM or for YOU to pretend that sex won't be important in your relationship.
You sound like you're about 17 in your question....you shouldn't have a boyfriend at that age anyway.
2006-08-06 11:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by tonevault 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're together, it will always be an issue. He's 20 years older so his body and its functions will continue to go downhill. People who are together that are close in age can deal with this better.
2006-08-06 11:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by styymy_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is more of a psychological issue than a physical one. Nothing makes a man more insecure than his feeling of sexual inadequacy. There's nothing much you can do other than reassure him that sex is the least important aspect of this relationship. Warn him not to use that as an excuse to ruin an otherwise good relationship.
2006-08-06 11:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't really, his self esteem is quite shattered, plus he wants to have 'sex' and feels like 50% of the relationship just fell through the roof - get him some viagra (it will help him get erect and get his drive back - and i dont mean just sex drive), also complement the viagra with what you jus told all of us.
2006-08-06 11:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look be careful i went through the same thing if u don't do this right he will leave u so say tell him u love him an then tell him what u just told the world and then tell him u love him again and hope 4 the best. and get some good sex tips and viarga
2006-08-06 11:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋