I find myself waiting everyday for him to do something with me...most of his friends r females and they all call here looking for him to hook them up...he is not a drug dealer and I am sick of this crap.....yet..he thinks I am unreasonable....I work,I clean,I cook,I am fatihful and pretty . What do I have to do to stop this?
2006-08-06 10:54:59 · 12 answers · asked by Shortydeb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey girl, you are NOT unreasonable! Whatever he is doing it is NOT innocent or he's lying like a rug. The warning signs are up and you have taken notice!
First, don't cook dinner. Let him know you are both going out for dinner, to spend some time together (for a change)..
Afterwards desserts you can have a little chat along the following areas:
1. You say he's not a drug dealer and you might be right so why do these women need him... and why is he so eager and willing to be of assistance to them ...when all you want is his time (like now) that you deserve (remember you had to make this dinner date)?
As I see it..he's got his priorities mixed up here ...and enjoying it. He's losing ground in your eyes, and fast, and that you find his behavior at the level of grade school and you find it embarrassing and appauling. He obviously likes the attention (adolescent) and because he's a guy whose has lost his way already. Whatever his excuse, it is total rubbish, or crap as you so bluntly put it. He is behaving like a stupid fool. If he disagrees, gives excuses it is because he wants to continue to do it anyway and he might even accuse you of... this or that. So what? Get back on point because he'll start pointing fingers at you and he'll make it out to be all your fault or the old standard..."you're crazy." Don't buy it..
2. Tell him he is behaving like a fool, he is being used and obviously likes it. Just like a teenager. Also, says something like. "I never thought when I married YOU I was marrying a fool, but I guess I was wrong. You're not that man." He's proving it with these women. How many of your friends would appreciate their husbands behaving like this. Not one I am sure, They'd be just a disappointed as you are. If it conitnues you will hate him and let him know that too. This is just a warning...
It is discouraging.I know... but this could be the beginning of a long string of misery if this keeps up. Would any of these women like to work, cook, clean, do his laundry and remain faithful to him? Maybe they would...for a while but how long would they tolerate a stupid fool. Let me tell you something... For some women, (the desperate ones) ALL men are fair game to them. Is that what he is looking for? Ask him. Be not afraid. Be still and know...YOU are better than HIM or THEM. You've already proven that. They have proved NOTHING except they spend time with a man who belongs to someone else (fair game). Let him know you didn't marry him for him to share his time with anyone but you.
What's his story now? Be kind, be firm, don't cry or be afraid and let him know you mean business. Have courage. If he's not willing to do as you ask, he's not worth having anyway. And if push comes to shove...get a puppy.
Best of luck and wait no more...just be a beautiful woman that you are..
2006-08-06 11:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other women should never take priority over you anyway. That is a big problem, don't whine or complain or argue. Tell him matter of factly, facts only what you have decided, If you ask for a divorce or a separation until he can make a descision what he really wants. If he has a problem and wants to adress it he will, you will never change what he is doing unless he wants to quit and stop being disrespectful to you. You have given him permission to do this to you by not asking him to leave sooner.
2006-08-06 18:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a drug dealer or a pimp.
Leave him and find someone who appreciates the work,cooking and faithfullness.Seems like everyone comes first to him and you are available to him when he is not busy with someone else.
2006-08-06 18:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man does not respect you, I think you need to seriously consider getting a divorce. There is a man out there that would love and respect you enough to not do things like that.
2006-08-06 18:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by mrharderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop or your going to walk and if he hits you have him arested oh in case you dont no this if the cops raided your house and found drugs you both wil go to jail
2006-08-06 18:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop this things or u will leave him for good and i think he is cheating on u because he gets hi and with girls so first impression. be tough
2006-08-06 18:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. That will wake him up. He doesn't think you're serious. He thinks you just make empty threats.
2006-08-06 17:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Divorce him.
2006-08-06 18:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and find soemone that respects you
2006-08-06 17:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Inga-dinga-do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would split up with him. u dont need this.
2006-08-06 18:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Tik~Tak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋