how do u ever move past your marriage when thats all u have known?

Answer 1

Go find some new friends. Get a new hobbie. Go ride your bike. Book yourself on a cruise.

Answer 2

You havent said how your marriage ended; divorce or death,but any how my answer may be for either one, but if Im wrong please forgive me. You had to have had some kind of life before marriage even if you married at a young age. You must have made friends too during the marriage. Your best bet if youre not sure what to do is to move far away from the memories so they wont keep popping up. There must be a dream or something that youve wanted to do for a long time so now is the time to do it. If you have relatives somewhere else, stay with them for awhile to get some direction on what you can do and where you want to be. It wont be easy but nothing in life is. You just have to do something. Get involved in church or volunteer somewhere to get your mind thinking for yourself. Good luck

Answer 3

Your marriage is part of what has made you who and what you are today. Now you need to decide who and what you want to be outside of the marriage. You are still you, now you can work on improving you as an individual instead of husband and wife. While hobbies are great, you do not have to give up the things that you did while married, go out meet new people and carry on the way you always have. Find out who YOU are, sometimes the most fun is in doing just that. What do YOU want to do today? What do YOU want to watch on tv? What do YOU want to see at the movies? Have fun no matter what! YOUR life is going to be what YOU make it!

Answer 4

It gets easier as time passes and the rage and hurt fades.

Sincerely.

Mooch: married @ 18 and divorced @ 46 (now 48 and more than happy with the way things turned out, extreme guilt about post marital cruelty to women who deserved better notwithstanding)

But if you're up for a little well-intentioned (if perhaps unsavoury advice) here is what NOT to do...

Sleep with other women. LOTS of other women. Put aside all reason and rhyme, and common decency, and treat them all like absolute garbage in your quest to become the perfect misogynist. Punish the lot of them relentlessly and without a second thought for what just one of them did to you. Tar them all with the same brush and cast out all respect for them. Lie with wide-eyed plausibility, and decieve them; make promises you have no intention of keeping and give them assurances you have no intention of honouring, and tell them what they need to hear to make them give you their heart and mind well as their body. And when they believe you may just be the real deal and a decent fella, crush them just for spite and leave them broken in the heart and bruised in the spirit, and totally baffled about what on earth they ever did to deserve so much terrible emotional violence.

If you think it's hard to move past a marriage, just wait until you try to move past behaving like that when the sanity comes flooding back inside you and your conscience wants to know why you abandoned it and what you got up to in it's absence.

Don't do anything hasty, friend, because if you do you'll be sorry. In time it really does get better. But just stop and breathe for a while and live like a monk until you're sure you're not a potential menace.

K?

Answer 5

its definately a hard transition to make.. i was with my x husband from the time i was 16 , got married as soon as i turned 18 and divorced by age 23 .. i had never been alone before and suddenly i was on my own with 2 children.. my husband had take care of most of the bills while we were married, so i basically was left to figure everything out for myself, and i did, it took getting use to sleeping alone in my bed had to use pillows to hold ect.. woke up for months after occasionally screaming his name ..wishing every day that , thats all it was , was a bad dream.. but every day it got alittle easier and i managed.. and so will u.. u probably feel like your in some sort of limbo at the moment.. but that will fade in time.. u will survive this.. i promise, time is the key.. and making urself get out of bed every a.m. and keep going even when u dont feel like it..

good luck

Answer 6

Nonsense! You had a life before marriage and you will have a life after one.

Answer 7

Depends. If you are talking about a divorce, you don't. You are married until death do you part. If you are talking about being widowed, then that's a hard one. Everyone deals with it differently. Hobbies are good. Friends are good. Religion is best. :) God bless you.

Answer 8

You have to move on. It's very tough, I know I've been there. Divorce and breakups are tough, especially the longer you've had that person in your life. In my case, I gave up too much of my individuality and lost that part of myself I believe was attractive to my mate.

You need to do things that make you feel good about yourself. Create new goals, workout, Volunteer, write, help others with their projects, become involved in clubs, etc. All in all stay active so that you don't sulk and pine for that old relationship. Physical activity is very important, not only for the excercise but to expend mental stress and if you get a gym membership it's can be social too. It truly helps, I can't impress it how important excercise is, even if it's walking or jogging in your neighborhood...

You need to get your mind in a place where you love yourself and know that you lived and enjoyed life before that relationship, and will enjoy life again after that relationship. It is important to create new experiances without that person in your life... These things will be the basis of your individuality and creating your "rebirth" as a single person.

Nothing is more attractive to others than a person who is indepentant, loves him/herself, and is confident in him/herself. Once in another relationship or if your lucky enough to work things out in the troubled relationship... It is important to keep your friends and outside interests, it will refresh you. No one likes to be with a mate who is a total puppet or sponge. It's a drain...

Good luck, it takes time and hard work... You will have lots of bad days and think you will die without that person... You won't die and those bad days become less frequent over time... All you have in this life is yourself. Only YOU can make yourself happy in this life. Take responciblity for your happiness in life and do what makes YOU happy...

Today, make a list of things you want to do in your life. Be it travel to a specific city, country... A job, a house, fitness, sailing lessons, painting lessons, a relationship. Make a huge list. Brain storm and write them all down. No matter how crazy the idea, WRITE IT DOWN... Now you have to break down these goals to HOW you'll accomplish them. That trip, How much does it cost? What do I need to do to save for it? How long will it take, etc. Break down each goal to the little tasks you need to complete to make the goal a reality. As you complete your goals, it will build confidence and love yourself more. It's really attractive to other people.

When your ready to be in another relationship... Think about what interests you would like you mate to have. Art? Golfer? etc. Learn to play golf... Become a member of the Art Museum and attend funtions and openings... You get the idea...

Nothing makes one feel better about themselves more than accomplishing goals... Go for it... YOU CAN DO IT, regardless of the goal or what other say...

It is truly amazing that once you are happy and love yourself and realize you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy... It's strange, but that is when you become most attractive to others... Strange but true...

Good luck... Life is a wonderous thing, don't let one person in the world ruin your life experiance.

Answer 9

get out snd do some thing...volunteer work , church, whatever type organization or sport you like. you will meet other people. keep an open mind and get out of yourself. give without expecting back. it will get better and easier.
keep trying!

Answer 10

Think of it as a new beginning with a whole world of new experiences awaiting you!