i set my limits not to fully give in although it's very tempting, esp. if the guy seems to care and love you....yet, i am on my sound mind...however, quite unfair for the young man...i told him, i am still married that is why, i cannot give myself fully to him....that one thing i withhold....i want to hold on to my vows as a wife in spite of the cheating my husband did to me....but he could'n do his function well anymore, not even regularly...most of the time, he's the one who would explode to anger...and on the contrary, asks for my understanding most of the time....
what would i do? i do not want to sin or to make an offense against the vow i made...against my marriage...
to accept it as it is, is it the only best way to do?
he would say, i should be thankful, he's still alive to this day...if i just knew the difficulty he is going through....
what would i best do ....to be able to help him...us...our family....?
i just couldn't ask from friends cause he's wholesome outwardly
2006-08-06 10:44:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are u still in this????? please..move on...u only have 1 life, and u are wasting it on a hopeless notion........there plenty of guys out ther for u...
2006-08-06 10:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by scooter2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make some decisions. You have to decide how important your marriage is. What are you willing to do or sacrifice to maintain it? There is hope, but not without work and a lot of it. You must find a scriptural and godly counselor. Even then, there is a chance that your marriage will not last. In my experience with my wife, the first counselor was not a scriptural counselor. We were advised to divorce. Our current counselor is a scriptural counselor. We are making it though with difficulty. A book which might help is "Love life for every married couple" by Ed Wheat, M. D. and Gloria Perkins. Again, you have to educate yourself and make some choices. Find sound godly counsel. There are many with good intentions who will give you bad advice. I know they don't mean to, but they will. You have to learn and do what is right. Please find sound help. Also, be wary of going to a member of the opposite sex especially alone. There is great risk of developing a relationship which will further undermine your marriage. Anytime a marriage can be saved rather than endured, that is preferable. Unfortunately that is not always possible. Keep praying. Do not give up hope no matter what happens. Even in divorce should that be required, do not give up hope. Read the book. Seek help.
2006-08-06 11:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for divorce on grounds of fraud and endangerment of your life,especially if has AIDS or is a carrier. You only have 1 life to live, so divorce him and move onto someone you can be happy with. Life is too short to stay in this marriage and its obvious he doesnt care about you so the time has come to move on and now. Good luck
2006-08-06 10:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very minute you learned he was gay, he should of been out the door, told to never come back, and screw all that bullshit about understanding blah blah blah.
2006-08-06 10:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to move on with your life and both of you have already left the relationship
2006-08-06 10:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an annulment.
2006-08-06 10:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an anullment,you didn't know he was gay when you married him.
2006-08-06 10:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋