I was dating my exgirlfriend for quite some time and she ended up pregnant. After the preganancy it got worse to the point we broke up and never talked. I found out that my child was born and I called her and she said that she does not want my help at all. I offered to support the child and be responsible but she does not want my help. I m wondering if down the road she changes her mind can she get back child support from the day the kid was born even though I m not in the child's B. C. Can the court rule on her favor?
2006-08-06 10:25:06 · 24 answers · asked by Lostinaction 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and you had better cover your a** quick with this issue too. Find a good lawyer and tell them whats happened up to now so you can avoid any surprises.
2006-08-06 10:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that you weren't married, in the eyes of the law the child isn't yours until proven otherwise. Meaning a DNA test would have to be ordered before any support. Once that gets established, there's a huge possibility that back child support can be ordered. You can't get sued for it and the state will make payment arrangements with you. You won't have to pay it all in full, it'll be small amounts added on to the required monthly amount to pay it off. You need to decide whether you want to be a father to this child or not. If you do, then don't sit back and let her tell you you can't. You need to take action and get involved in this child's life. If you don't want to and she doesn't want you to be in it either, with her consent you can sign over your rights and never have to worry about paying child support. Whatever you do, don't sit back and do nothing.
2006-08-14 09:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not generaly. In most circumstances she cannot get support for any period before the date she files in court for a paternity order and order for you to pay child support.
One notable exception. If she ever goes on welfare, and you are later found to be the father, you will owe the state for all the welfare she collected.
You might consider suing her for a paternity determination, and have her agree to minimal support because she does not want it. Most courts won't allow "no support".
However, remember, a large portion of paternaty cases come out as someone else is the father, you might come out better off.
Are you calling back to be concerned about the child? Or using the child as an excuse to still be around her? If it's the latter, its probably not yours.
OF course, I'm no lawyer. You need to find one licenced in your state who practices this kind of law, for accurate advise.
2006-08-06 10:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If that happens they will be paying her from the beginning of the child's life even if she refused. The same thing happened to my friend. He never thought that she would do it but after a few years she decided to go to the courts to get child support after all. It only made things worse because she was trying to use the check to get back at him for leaving her.
2006-08-12 19:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by nygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is definitely yes! I know someone who had child support deducted from his social security and disability checks till he was 64 and his kids were 30!! Listen to the advice given about taking responsibility now. The baby is your gift too. It has thousands of years of the same DNA as you. This is the blueprint of yourself on the planet. It is not her [your ex] decision as to whether your child has a father. Your child has a father and its you! Don't let some only else raise your descendant. That baby deserves to have you! Be there. I am the product of an affair and my father let my mom's husband raise me as his own and I didn't find out till I was 30! Its too painful and you do not want your child to feel even a fourth of what I, and others in my position feel.
2006-08-06 11:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by tygrrr5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definately, because even though you are not on the b.c, they can get a paternaty test done, when or if she plans to sue, and it will show you are the father, and unfortunately, they are more likely to be on the side of the birth mother, and she can claim you never supported the baby and all the crap, if i were you, i would get a lawyer, and see what all you can do, like if maybe you can get her to sign something, with your lawyer, saying that for the next 18 years, she does not want financial help from you!
2006-08-06 10:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No as a results of fact new child help money circulate to the mum, to no longer the new child, so he does not owe YOU something, so how ought to you sue him? I actual have in simple terms as a lot criminal nicely suited to sue him for new child help as you do. Your father is already being ordered to pay new child help with the aid of a court and nonetheless owes decrease back new child help, so why would you think of that suing him would do something, whether you should? He in simple terms does not pay the lawsuit judgement the two. and you and your mom's regulation thought is stupid. If he isn'tmaking new child help money, and get cut back off from government tips, then you certainly're lowering your probability of ever getting it. you in basic terms get new child help whilst the father has money interior the 1st place, so how is reducing off his income going to assist something? possibly you and your brother ought to get jobs to assist your mom rather of crying approximately it and making up regulations that may not paintings. in case you're too youthful to get a actual interest, then mow lawns, assemble cans, and so on. Are you? @Sweat i admire the form you call this a Romney economic device whilst he's no longer even in workplace. this is an Obama economic device and has been for years. Are you adult males EVER going to take your drugs and settle for that possibly the social gathering interior the white homestead and who controlled the Senate for years could be in part accountable?
2016-09-28 23:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer, and set aside a little bit of money each and every month. The child support is the right of the child's not the parents, and if the child should end up in foster care, or if the mother changes her mind and says that she wants to "share the joys of parenting OUR child", they can go after you and retroactively. Put aside, say, 25 percent of your disposable income each month.
2006-08-08 07:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by John F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The court wont make you pay child support back to the day the child was born. They can go back to the day that she filed child support only.
2006-08-11 19:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweetheart_12074 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on the birth certificate as the natural father, absolutely. My advice, start providing what you are comfortable with and keep immaculate receipts and record of everything that you do. At the end of the day, she can never stand in court and call you a "deadbeat dad". Send money for school clothes, supplies...whatever...I'd put that in the memo section of my check, made to her, never cash, and any medical bills, etc.....KEEP ACCURATE RECORDS...very thorough. Even if she said no...it's kinda your responsibility anyway....almost like asking your roomate if they want help with the rent....they may say no....but if you're sleeping under their roof.....u get the point
2006-08-06 10:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by tookie_8197 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget what the law says.
this is your child and you recognise have a responsibility to it whether you are there or not. Work out how much you can afford to pay and offer this freely and do so regulary, if your ex will not take this freely now then put it each month into a savings account for your child so it is there when they need it
2006-08-11 04:35:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋