Does having Gay friends make such relationships morally OK?

Question

Only asking.. because people say I have lots of gay friends so why can't they adopt kids.?

I say what does that have to do with it, and the questions surrounding the morality of such adoptions.

Answer 1

Cannot for the life of me work out how it could be morally wrong to have gay friends! Most people have but don't necessarily know it!
Not to have gay friends means that you have chosen to alienate yourself from people once you have discovered that they are gay and that is being intolerant. Question answered?
I realise that a lot of people are opposed to gays adopting but I most certainly am not. There are good and bad parents and being gay will not make any difference. For the bigots that are shouting,"they'll abuse the children" remember that most sexual abuse committed against children is carried out by heterosexuals. I know that won't go down well, but I am just quoting facts! Live and let live, if you see abuse (from any quarter) report it.

Answer 2

I don't see what the sexual preferences of your friends has to do with your friendship with them or whether or not they can adopt kids. If you want to ask a question and get sensible answers, you need to sort out what question you want to ask. For example:

1) Is being gay morally wrong?

2) If it is morally wrong, should I befriend such people?

3) Should gay people be allowed to adopt kids?

and several other questions like that. As it stands, you have a number of ill-formed thoughts rattling around and you spewed them out with very little conception of whether thay make sense or not. They don't. Come back when you have a question.

Answer 3

Nothing people think or do MAKE something morally, okay.
The affect which the deed or the acts have on society as a whole and on the shaping of the future is the factor that determines if something is morally, okay. Two people of the same gender cannot create offspring in a monogamous relationship, inherently requiring one of the "spouses" to have sex outside of marriage in order to produce offspring and it gives a chaotic example of family life to the children who are forced to observe the dynamics of such unions, whether they happen to be adopted or not.

Answer 4

Not to put too fine a point on it: There is no credible (repeatable) evidence
that shows that homosexuals make worse parents than their heterosexual
counterparts.

There are lots of tests that did not conform to scientific standards, usually
performed by religious groups, but NONE of them conform to scientific
rigor.

There is some anecdotal data that says that problems can occur, but
there is an immense amount of anecdotal data that discusses problems
with heterosexual adopting parents. Pointing out that John and Tom
screwed up as parents is not evidence against homosexual parenting.
It is, perhaps evidence against John and Tom.

Stastical evidence is the best evidence we have, and right now, it says
that homosexual parents are as good as heterosexual parents.

And ... We need all the adoptive parents we can get our hands on.

Any argument that starts out with "But Christ said..." or "The bible says..."
is inherently a Christian argument and not worth discussing, frankly
as Christianity represents a minority of the world's population. That is,
adhering to that point of view because of that reasoning would be to
imply a particular religion is more important than the needs of these
parentless kids.

Are we really saying that kids should remain parentless rather than
have homosexual parents because Christianity (less than half the
population) says its bad?

Find a counter argument BASED ON SOUND SCIENCE, and I'll listen.

As for the morality of having gay friends, why not? Moreover, are you
willing to discard friends on the basis of their sexual preference?

Friends are precious enough, regardless of preference, race, gender, etc.

Answer 5

I don't really understand what you're trying to ask. But anyway, I do know some gays, and I think they'd make great parents, even better than some straight parents I know. A gay is just as capable as a straight guy (in principle, and in general) to give their children love, care, and everything else that a child needs. And statistics prove (that's a fact, not an opinion) that children raised by homosexuals are not any worse or better than children raised by heterosexual couples, or by single mothers, or by single fathers, or by a parent with their new partner. Other things are more relevant than that.

Answer 6

I'm answering this on the back of your other (similar) question - see below.

If you have gay friends then your acceptance of them should, in your view, be indicative that their sexual orientation is of no moral consequence. Otherwise one wonders how moral you are that you can permit a dichotomy between that which you practise and that which you consider to be your moral view.

My view (dare I say) shared by most others, the adoption should be about the child and their placement in a stable loving environment where they will be nurtured to grow as fully functioning members of society. That the candidate parents are a homosexual couple should not be a barring factor, of itself.

Answer 7

Gay adoptions aren't allowable
If the children grow up and "naturally" they are going to be straight
They'll be embarassed by their parents
There's a chance they might be coerced to become gay even if their natural tendency is not to
Until gays become the majority, such adoptions are objectionable

Answer 8

At the end of the day, some people have kids, and they are mis-treated. That can be done by either gays or straight people. I think that the only people who should have the option to adopt are the ones who are capable of looking after a child properly, with the abilty to provide everything including love, attention and affection. Their sexuality shouldnt matter!!

Answer 9

Children raised by gay parents are just as well-adjusted as other children. They are not more likely to have any particular types of problems, and they are not any more likely to be gay than children raised by straight parents. This is based on scientific research.

You cannot legally deny people the right to adopt based on some people's opinions or religious beliefs (this is America). And there is no medical, psychological, or social evidence showing that allowing them to raise children is harmful.

As to their being ashamed of their parents, in my experience children of gay parents are as proud of their parents as anyone else. Or their parents drive them crazy just like anyone else. The point is, there don't seem to be many differences between children raised by gay parents and those raised by straight parents. It's the quality of the parenting that counts.

Answer 10

There is no reason (even a religious one) that states that a gay person is worse then anyone else out there to be a parent. Just like being a friend with some who is gay. There is nothing wrong with it. Jesus himself spent most of his time with the socially outcast. The tax collectors, lepers, sinners, etc.