im 6 week and i dont feel no love for my baby... im married and im 21 years old. but even do i dont feel no love what so ever for tis baby i still take care of myself i eat healthy ... but :( what can i do to feel at least at little bit of love for my child ... this will be my first child.. and its wierd i allways wanned to have kids for my husband!! what can i do??
2006-08-06 08:53:02 · 32 answers · asked by Canela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-08-06 11:13:22 · update #1
being pregnant involves lots of changes over a really long time... and the feelings for your baby will grow and develop over time... just let it happen.. your apprehension is normal...and wanting to love your baby shows concern... concern is a part of love...
2006-08-11 06:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you hear the heartbeat for the first time. It is amazing. Then, between 16 and 20 weeks you will feel something like butterflies in your stomach when the baby moves. It is so incredible. Then, around 24 to 32 weeks you will be able to put your or your husbands hand on your stomach and the baby will push it away. Being pregnant is the most amazing thing that will ever happen to you. Once you are out of the morning sickness and fatigue part of the pregnancy, you will love that baby with an unimaginable passion. I have been through it twice.
2006-08-06 09:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 6 weeks pregnant? You need to stop worrying! You aren't even showing yet! Once the baby starts moving in you, it gets more real. I was worried my whole pregnancy that i wouldn't be a good mother, and i didn't even feel like I really fell in love with the baby until she was about 3 mo old. But you will love your baby, I'm sure. Allow yourself to love the baby the way you love the baby, not the way you THINK YOU SHOULD love the baby. Love yourself and you'll be a great mom.
2006-08-13 04:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by dbmamaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not feeling love at 6 weeks for your baby is not a bad thing espically if it was an unplanned pregnancy. It's not even uncommon to feel no love when the baby is first born because you will probably have the baby blues. That will all change though after awhile espically if you love your hubby. The moment the pregnancy becomes a realization like you start to show or you feel your baby move, you will probably start to feel that bond. So I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-08-13 15:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by ashleymama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. The baby is maybe the size of a lima bean if that. When was the last time you felt love for a lima bean? What I am trying to say is that it is not real to you yet. Although I was excited to be pregnant with my first, I don't think I felt a lot of emotion until I felt her move for the first time. Believe me, when you see that baby for the first time, everything will fall into place. You will love him/her so much it hurts! As long as you are taking care of yourself and doing what the doctor tells you, I wouldn't worry about the other stuff right now.
2006-08-06 09:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 6 weeks? The pregnancy probably doesn't even seem real to you yet. Soon you'll hear the heartbeat and that may help you connect. Also, if you have an ultrasound and get to see the baby. Wait until the baby starts moving! You'll feel really different then when you can begin to connect with baby.
2006-08-06 08:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks is still very early you haven't felt the baby move yet so in some ways although you know your pregnant it still seems unreal. In time it will happen. You can always start talking to your baby rubbing your tummy but when you start feeling the baby it will seem more real lots of time for you to feel for love of the baby don't stress about this
2006-08-13 15:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The maternal feelings will eventually come. It sounds like the timing of the pregnancy may not have been the best but that is the case with most of us who have had children. As soon as you see the ultrasound picture of the baby and feel him move in your stomach, you will become very excited. Then no one will be able to stop you from talking about the baby to be....
2006-08-13 16:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by amazon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 6 weeks, then you just found out that you're pregnant.. and you're adjusting. You don't have to love the baby right away.. you have time for that.. you have another 8 months to learn to love your baby.. and you might not even love your baby until you finally see his/her little face for the first time.
So remember... eat right and keep the baby healthy.. that's all that matters right now.. you will feel love for your baby all in due time..
2006-08-06 09:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I was told I was having twins. I was excited and scared through the whole pregnancy. I had a love for them while they were in the womb, but when they were born I didn't feel that "motherly love" that a mother feels for her child. I took care of them, late night feedings, diaper changes,ect. I never really bonded with them until they were about nine months old. I know that sounds aweful and I always showed them attention and did things for them and loved them, but didn't really feel that I would do anything for you kind of love until they were nine months old. Every one is different and you just have to give yourself time to adjust.
2006-08-13 03:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 6 weeks, you're probably not showing yet. Be patient. When you see your baby grow, when you feel your baby, when you feel that you really are going to become a mother, you will be more likely to start loving your baby. Congratulations and good luck!
2006-08-06 08:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋