Muslim Female Extramarital or Premarital Sexuality?

Question

I have debated whether this Q. should be in this category or Politics. Here goes:

Assuming Muslim Fs have normal sexual urges and there is comparable hypocrisy to fundamentalist conservative Christian Fs
how do Muslim women (other than Shi'ite divorcees and widows, who are allowed, even for money, to have "temporary" husbands) manage to have non-marital or extramarital partners and what are the statistics? Is there just a lot of secret trysting? After all, the news is full of stories of honor killings, honor rapes and sharia and civil prosecutions of Fs in Muslim (and Muslim areas in non-Muslim) countries for their sexuality so there must be activity. Is it scientifically measured? I have searched many internet sites under "Muslim female sex" and also checked for books at two university libraries and found no answers. (I don't have the courage to ask at mosques or the local Muslim cultural centres).

The two "answers" received so far have been total bs in different ways and do not answer my Q. I would think the Q is very relevant in these difficult times.

Answer 1

Sex outside the sanctity of marriage is strictly forbidden in Islam. Period.

Therefore, if a woman chooses to have pre-/extra-marital sex then it has nothing to do religion. It comes down to her personal belief system. She has to be willing to live with the knowledge that the "sin" she is committing was based on a conscious, deliberate decision contradictory to her religion. The only way that I know of that unmarried women can "legally" satisfy their sexual needs is through masturbation since this is not forbidden in Islam (i.e. she's not committing adultary with another person and isn't hurting anyone or herself).

I know of unmarried muslims (men and women alike) from conservative muslim families who have sex outside of marriage. They acknowledge it's wrong, but it's their choice to do it anyway. I don't judge them for it, it's their decision. Some of them though, they feel the need to justify it to me (e.g. "we're getting married anyway so it's no big deal").

I'm a muslim female and unmarried. I only plan on having sex when i get married someday - it's a personal choice i've made and i'm sticking to it.

Personally, i don't agree with the Shi'ite practice of "temporary/pleasure" marriages. The majority of Muslims are totally against this practice. I think it was primarily created as a "loophole" to pre-/extra marital sex and to “legalise” prostitution in a way - To me, it appears to be a mockery of the institution of marriage. However, at the same time, I have to state that I do understand that there are some people out there who look to this practice out of desperation (e.g. some women who cannot find husbands, but still want children, turn to this practice to be able to become mothers of children NOT born out of wedlock).

Honour rapes and killings have NOTHING to do with Islam - these practices are forbidden in Islam and are practiced by misinformed individuals who look to so-called "educated", fanatic leaders for guidance. These practices are more about culture than religion (a lot of people's mindsets are in the "what are the neighbours saying now that everyone knows about the sin my daughter committed?" mode).

Answer 2

You know I really don't see the vitality of this question. I don't even know why it is a question. How Muslim women deal with it is their business. And may I remind you that it is not just Muslim that suffer from violence about their sexual needs. Many other women around the world suffer from gang rapes, killings because of men they have slept with etc. and have it go unrecognized in their communities.

Answer 3

I grew up in the muslim religion and I had many boyfriends and I was having sex when I was 16! I am currently married to a non muslim man.

Answer 4

I am married to a muslim man from a muslim country. He told me that there are alot of women who have affairs with other women. Even though, according to Islam, this is forbidden. Hope my answers helps :)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

their religion has warped their fragile little minds, and ruined many potintialy awsome sex excapades these women may have gone on if they wern't so afraid for their lives for doing so...