When you meet someone for the first time do you get a feeling right off the bat that they don't like you ?

Question

Well, I don't know about you, but I find it hard to trust people (a lot of people) unless I've known them for a while, or I feel a connection right from the start. And, when I join a club or go out and meet new people through others or even on a job, it seems to me like I there is always one person out of the bunch or two that I notice right off the bat that give me a bad vibe. Whether it's because I feel it in my gut or because of the way nonverbally they are communicating, it lets me know right off the bat they don't like me for whatever reason. I usually find my suspicions to be right most of the time. I usually try be discreet around them because I don't trust them and don't want them misleading anyone about me, because they want start with their wrath-aka bullshit. I'm sure you guys experienced it sometime or another-so what is your story?

Answer 1

Yes. I'm someone you can easily talk to but when I have that feeling in my gut, I automatically know that person doesn't like me. You can usually tell by their actions. I observe people and their actions, they don't really need to say, "I don't like you" for me to know they dislike me. But then there are those people who look serious and hardly smile, but once you get to know them you find out that they are nice after all.

Answer 2

Yes Sidney, I have experienced it a few times. Normally, I just make a mental note to be on guard as to that person and let it go. In other words, I do not have much time to spend on how some possible sick puppy feels about anything. As a male, I feel that sometimes this can be caused by jealousy, (If there are several people involved), or perhaps it is because they are having a bad day.

I have trained myself to be positve and usually, people seem to like me right away. Plus as a man, I am a big dude, 6' 2" and built for action, but I never intimidate anyone, usually they will intimidate themselves.

Sidney, I sense that if you always see yourself as others see you, perhaps you would feel good about yourself because of how well you are liked, and just maybe, the first impression you get is a feedback from the other person as they are picking up the same about you in that moment of mentally questioning that person as to if they like you or not.

I suspect women may have more concern about this than I as a man would. I vagely understand the competition and critical attitude women seem to have toward one another. But that is not for me to understand or even claim to.

This may sound strange, but even though we have never met, I picked up very good vibes in communicating with you.

Here is a salutation for you?

May the sun always shine warm on your shoulder, and may the grass always be green under your feet. (annonomous Cherokee Indian saying.)

Have a Great upcomming week,

Darryl S.

Answer 3

I'm also an optimist and whenever my gut starts to warn me about someone I try not to follow my gut instinct but rather try to give that person or persons the benefit of the doubt which has been proven wrong. I should always go with me gut feelings and that way save myself a lot of pain and trouble in the long run.

Answer 4

Hi Sidney that feeling is usually true because most people judge you right off the bat by the way you look or how you dress or the color of your skin and so on and so on because of that the look or how they act around you make you feel that they don't like you and sometimes the judgment bring them to the end of telling you the truth in the future saying to you, "you know i did not like you when i first saw" or something like that. So Sidney it's not only you who have that feeling because it happened to all of us at one time or an other.

Answer 5

Stay polite with the people who give you a bad vibe, but avoid having too much to do with them.

I have been wrong more often by distrusting the "vibe" I get than by trusting it. Its called instinct, and it is a natural part of our systems of self-protection. Use it as a tool, as one piece of evidence along with everything else (their behavior, who they hang out with, what they talk about) to help you make a decision about them.

And there is nothing wrong with being slow to warm to people. Not everyone has 500 "best friends". Unless you are always lonely, I wouldn't worry about having a smaller, closer set of friends than you see others having.

Answer 6

When I enter a group there's always the one or two people that give me the "vibe" to but it is sometimes that they are cautouis of you or they themselves may not be good in groups or may just be shy . I met someone who thought I looked like someone they dated and had a bad break up so right of they bat they were suspicious of me but in the end they ended up being very nice .

Answer 7

Life is like a mirror sometimes. How would anybody like or not like a person without first knowing who and what they are. We can like how a person looks, but dislike how they act and not agree with what they say or do.

Some people are envious of a better looking or smarter person and then give off the impression that they don't like you because they are intimidated by the other.

Have you ever liked a person- at first, then learn later that they are not what you thought they were?

Have you ever disliked a person- at first, only later to learn that they are incredibly excellent- in contrast to the first impression?

Answer 8

Yes, it's called intuition, trust it. Some people just clash, and other people are just non trusting. Whatever your gut is telling you, stick with it. Be cordial around these people, but there is some hidden reason that made you feel this way, always be leery and don't let your guard down.

Answer 9

I have meet people that from the start I don't trust or like. If your getting that feeling. Maybe your instinc is telling you to stay a way. Some times later we might be become friends but not to often. Besides no one likes every one they meet.

Answer 10

Yeah i can always feel if sum1 doesnt like me right away
If you know that ure a good person, then u shud disregard these ppl, cuz u know they have nuthin 2 go on, and that they dislike u out of malice or wutever. If they're givin off bad vibes, return the favor :). If they start a smear campaign on u, u shudnt b worried, cuz ne1 who believes them isnt worth ur attention. Sumtimes a smear campaign is quite a useful thing... it helps u sift through all those gossip luvin types, and it helps u find the ppl who want 2 find out themselves wut ure really like