I got a gf ... she's very lovely and she got 2 bf before me ... she lose her virginity with the first one and she said she doens't love him but she kept him in her hreat ... about the second one ... she just met him and after 4 hours they were in bed and after that the guy didn't propose relationship and he left her after 1 month and now she's with me.
when i think of her past i feel bad eventhought she told me everything but i don't know whether i can accept or not. the main part that made me feel back was : she slept with the second guy in the first date ;(
what shall i do ??
2006-08-06 07:25:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
accept what?
That she had a life before you came along? Grow up and leave the past where it belongs.
Did you do bad things before? Would you want your new gf to make you feel bad about it?
The past is the past. You can't change it. And she is what she is today because of everything she lived through... keep that in mind.
2006-08-06 07:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Does *she* regret having put out on the first date? You may have someone who's confessing a mistake and would like some reassurance that it doesn't make her an inherently bad human being. The madonna/whore complex is alive and well out there; if you love this girl, don't let her destroy herself with it.
I don't advocate *forgetting* entirely at this point. Did she say, or did you ask, what sort of protective measures she used with her previous lovers? STDs may be a concern. Other than that, though, her past is past, and she doesn't yet have enough of a track record for you to really be able to accuse her of sluttery.
2006-08-06 14:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person have a past,when you love someone you need to think of tomorrow,and build with that person a long good relationships.Love is base on trust and complicity,so if you think that you dont want to forgive her with her past and dont want to give her a seconde change to show you that she can be a good girlfriend well i guess you should look somewhere else.good luck:)
2006-08-06 14:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. If it makes you unconfortable I think you should figure out why exactly, and go to her with it and see, as a pair, what you can do to fix it. If she says that she's through that stage in her life then good! Great! But if she's still stuck in it and you're not just looking to get in bed, and you're looking for something with substance than I think you should let her go. And with all her past think about if you really love her or not. Think about all of this and then talk to her once you have all of your thoughts in order. And just talk to her about it. Hope I've helped, good luck.
God bless.
2006-08-06 14:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey bro, I feel your pain. My wife has a past that I had trouble dealing with...for a long time....but just keep pushing through it, if you think she is worth it. My wife did SOO much worse than what your gf did, but I love her with out reserves and I would never give her up. If you think this girl is with it and you are into her that much, then just go with it. It will get easier....
2006-08-06 14:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by kbjcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up the closed minded attitude that sex is bad.
But keep your mind open that what she has done in the past could happen to you in the future. You could also live happily ever after.
So, forget the past but remember the lesson and get on with life.
2006-08-06 14:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so wrong about having sex on the first date??? We didn't know it at the time, but when I met the woman I married, we had sex on the first date. She asked if we could go back to my house when I offered to take her home. She made the first move, and never left... lol
2006-08-06 14:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Married Male 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Search your heart. Do you love her? Therein is your answer. If you choose to be with her then accept who she is, you can't change the past, it is part of her that you have accepted.
2006-08-06 14:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man this is the 21st century. I am a Christian, but there is forgiveness. have her get tested for STD's and then if you really care for her, then date her. She doesnt have to repeat her mistakes as long as she is into you.
2006-08-06 14:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by ostarr03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she told u that because she already quit , and she is trying to clear her concious then forgive her .. but if u feel like she will continue being playfull then let go
2006-08-06 18:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by len 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋