Why won't my wife have sex with me when I want to, but only when she wants to?

Answer 1

Depending on her age, hormones are playing tricks on women. Talk to her about it. May be you guys can come to compromise on it.

Answer 2

This is a better question...Why would you WANT her to have sex with you when she doesn't want to? Is it fun watching her stare at the ceiling?

Figure out ways to turn her on when you are in the mood.. Don't just try to jump her bones..help her out around the house so she isn't so tired at the end of the day.... believe it or not THAT will make a big difference on how she feels in the evening. Then move onto a bubble bath or shower together then a little foreplay..take your time and enjoy the warm beautiful body that God put by your side

Answer 3

Cause we are the superior sex and it's what we say and what we want.

Seriously, she might not care about your needs. I want to have sex all the time so if I ever get married or whenever I am dating someone this is never an issue. Tell her that you don't think it's fair for her to do this. She probably thinks you always want to do it so that when she is ready you're ready too. Or cut her off for a few times and see how she likes it. May be hard on you but you have to prove your point.

Answer 4

Do you know how often my husband wanted to have sex while I was cooking supper with my hand covered in raw meat loaf? Or when I was trying to pack lunch boxes and get kids out the door for school, or when I was trying to pay bills, do the laundry, and clean the house all at the same time? If you're anything like my man, you want sex at the most stressful inopportune times of the day, but once the work is done and the kids are a sleep & you've been sleeping in the recliner for 2 hours. She drags herself to bed and FINALLY has the time and energy to satisfy YOUR needs. She calls you in for a late night rondavue...(of course she is doing this for you), but you turn it around and think she's doing it for herself. Of course she knows this and just smiles to herself and lets you think what you want....she's phycially and emotionally too drained to care at that point.

Answer 5

Probably because you always say yes when she asks, and you ask more than her. Next time she asks, say no. Say you're busy, or tired, or have to run errands, whatever. Say no a couple of times and she will get more and more horny. Then when you ask she'll be all over you!

Basically, she thinks you want sex all of the time, 24/7 (you probably do). She wants sex less than that. Therefore, (she thinks) you always want sex when she does, and she might not always want it when you do. At least, that's her logic. But it means you're having sex on her terms. Don't do it! Play up your hand, start asserting yourself and saying no (even if you want it -- be strong!) and you'll see a change in a week or two :)

Answer 6

well you see we Lady's have control.
no just kidding. you need to really sit down and talk comely about this . she is being selfish. in a relations it should be go both ways . find or if you know what it is . that really turns her on then . that is what you should do. teas her through the day set little notes with what you are going to do to her when you get home . hug her always when you get home and run you hands in a caressing brace and really kiss her every day. not just a peck on the lips . romance her with you body as often as you can and always tell her how much you love her and how she is so existing to you. Wait till she is almost asleep and crawl under the blanket and start kissing her thighs and moving up so slowly to her . and give her what she really wants but not All the way make her beg for you to make love to her, when you are done she will ask what was that all about . and just say I was thinking how lovely you were down their and I just wanted to have a little taste. do thing out of the ordinary make love to her I don't mean just sex your hellos cuddling on the couch fondling her stroking her gently. Lady's need allot of foreplay indifferent ways .don't get rude about it. but we loved to be fondled she will lead you to the sex . for you have aroused her . and she thinks it is her Idea. witch she likes.

Answer 7

Because it's all about her. The only known prevenitive for sex after marriage is wedding cake! If you want sex...don't let her eat it. Once you get fed up with that stupid crap she's pulling you'll know exactly what to do. She needs to remember that marriage is a two way street. Wait till she's in her prime. I bet she'll still be getting some...with or without you.

Answer 8

If you try to have sex with a woman who is not ready, it can be painful and unsatisfying. Women need a lot of preparation. They need to get their thoughts going in that direction and think about it, and get ready for it. I think that if you do the proper preparation you may see that she wants to please you but she just can't pull it together at the last minute.

Perhaps you could get her in the mood with sweet talk in the morning, a thoughtful phone call during the day hinting at a romantic evening, doing the dishes after dinner, and rubbing her feet before suggesting sex.

If you have kids, help her with them. Play with them (men who are good with children are very sexy to women) feed them, put them to bed.

Other ways to make a woman feel sexy:
Thank her for the things she does for you.
Tell her how sexy she is to you.
Recognize things that are important to her and don't interfere with them. (like men don't want to be interrupted during a ball game)
Do little things like calling to see if she needs you to pick up anything at the store on the way home.
Pick up you dirty clothes.
Do men have any idea how many women are turned on by men doing housework?

Answer 9

Because women need much more to enjoy sex. I mean, for a man to enjoy sex only one thing is needed, and for women everything is much more complex. That's why you don't understand it. She likes sex only when she has all the conditions (which are individual), and she wants to have sex only when she knows she will like it. It's normal. But you should try to understand her needs and her conditions.

Answer 10

Heaven forbid you want this woman to *enjoy* having sex with you!

Perhaps the frequency with which you want it, and the length of time it takes to engage in it, leaves her with insufficient time to do other things. Are you pulling your weight at home, either actively by helping with chores or passively by cleaning up after yourself? Never underestimate how big a factor exhaustion can play in dampening someone's libido (male or female).

Answer 11

Why should anyone have sex when they don't want to?

The trick is to find out what get's her in the mood... and work on that... this will get you headed in the right direction and if it works out it works out.

If not.. grab a magazine and take things into your own hand!