How do I get to see my kids more?

Question

Hi , I have two kids with two diferent mothers and both mothers feel they shouldn't have to share the children with me.They have nothing to hold against me I don't smoke drink or do drugs. In my court papers it says that I can see them with 24 hr notice. So when I try to call to see them they say they have already made plans that way I don't get to see them and the kids don't get to know me.The mother of my son goes as far as to send him to a baby sitter just so he won't be there when I show up,(found this out fom one of her friends).Court papers say we have to seek mediation before going back to court so I set up a meeting with a mediator twice and offered to pay for there end of it and both times they refused to go because they knew there would be set visitations which is what they don't want.So the court said to file a contempt hearing against them for not going to mediation as ordered by the court. So I did, court said contempt denied.So I don't pay my child support.What do I do?

Answer 1

You say, ''So I don't pay my child support...''

Why would you bring up what the court papers say in your favor when you do not uphold your side of the bargain?

You are also in contempt of court.

Grow up, pay your child support, and then MAYBE you can complain about not getting to see your children. Who knows - your childrens' mothers might allow you to see your children once you start paying. I know that visitation should not be dependant on paying support - but plenty of people use that as leverage.

ALSO - it shows that you care about your kids when you contribute to their financial well being. Child support not only puts healthy, nutritious food on the table and keeps a stable roof over your childrens' heads (with electric, water, etc.) - but it also buys their clothes, shoes, toys, books, doctors appointments, medications, blankets, pillows... you get the picture. Even if your exes are financially stable on their own, your contribution can go toward a college fund or a car when the child is old enough.

Do the right thing for your children BEFORE you start complaining.