what shall i do i still love her and she was honest enough to tell me but now the trust is gone what shal i do????
2006-08-06 07:06:10 · 7 answers · asked by Chris B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she confessed, I think I would give her a second chance. I'd be wary, but I'd give her another go. If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't have felt bad enough to confess.
Also, read the article below, please. It helped me.
Were you cheated on?
# It is absolutely vital for you to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time.
# Don't try to make sense out of nonsense. Rationalizing your cheating spouse's behavior or sympathizing with him/her is pointless. It is never OK to go outside of your relationship to solve problems within a relationship. It's not your fault.
# Time heals nothing. It is what you do with the time that matters.
# Remember that it is better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.
# If your partner wants back in, he/she will have to earn his/her way back into the relationship. Renegotiate the relationship in a way that works for both of you.
# There comes a point in time where you may have to draw a line and say, "That's it, I'm done. I'm not mad at you. I withdraw my feelings, I withdraw my emotions. You just go do whatever you're going to do because I'm not going to live like this anymore." Don't stay together for the children. Remember, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one. They're much better off with one well-adjusted, happy, thriving parent, than they are with two who are cheating, lying, fighting, and living with stress and pressure.
# If there was a child born of the infidelity, understand that your spouse will forever have a relationship with that child's other parent. You have to make the decision about whether you can resolve to be part of that or not.
Did you have an affair?
# Own the problems that you created by having an affair. You cannot change what you don't acknowledge.
# It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you've been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe. That is a ridiculous comparison.
# In order to resolve your relationship, contact with "the other person" must be cut off 100 percent. You can't work on dealing with the consequences of the affair while you're still having it.
# Don't rely on your heart to tell you what to do; rely on your intellect. Do what logic tells you is the right thing to do.
# Make the hard decisions. Either leave the marriage to free your partner, or commit to stay. Remember, checking out of one relationship before you finish it appropriately doesn't work.
# Ask yourself: What are you doing to help your partner get past the affair?
# Be mature enough to recognize that life is not always all about you and what feels good for you in the moment. If you are married and have children, you have an obligation and a commitment that far transcends what feels good.
# Help the partner who did not have the affair find emotional closure. You must do whatever it takes until your partner finds it. If it requires you to check in with your spouse multiple times a day, then do it. It'll require you being where you're supposed to be, when you're supposed to be, 24 hours-a-day, seven days-a-week, so your spouse can trust you again. And you do it until.
# If a child was born of the infidelity, you will have to have contact with the other person in order to be co-parents. And you do this the right way by not having any contact without your spouse's involvement. If you want to talk with the other person, then you do it with your spouse present.
# Want to know if something is cheating? If you wouldn't do it with your spouse standing there, it's cheating.
# If your marriage is over and you have children, understand that your relationship with your ex will never end. You will always at least be co-parents of your children. Build a new relationship as their allies.
# Do you know what a healthy relationship is? Figure out what you want and behave your way to success.
2006-08-06 07:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give her a second chance okay she cheated she has admitted he was wrong and she has learned from her mistake so give her, her chance, she do it again then no leave her *** cause shes goin gto keep cheating on u. so give her the chance and because u love her and she loves you it might work out. her cheating might mean not enough time together? spend more time together. good luck
2006-08-06 14:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yeah......make an excuse that she was "honest enough" to tell you.....Oh, Please!!! Once a cheat.....always a cheat. I am sure you deserve better. Besides, if the relationship was that great, she would not have cheated with a stranger yet!! She is what is called a whore.......get real and dump her!
2006-08-06 14:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the ultimate knife in the back,,No second chances.
2006-08-06 14:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv been in the same position you are and i gave my girl a second chance and now when i say no she listens cuz she loves me and she dose not wont to lose me so she listens to me and easily dose what ever i say
2006-08-06 15:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by n_jevne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her! bcuz u don't know if she strapped up! And all it takes is one time to get AIDS!
If u don't love your self to leave then stay and keep wondering!!
2006-08-06 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Maryah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. She does not LOVE you. Love ie. = not cheating.
2006-08-06 14:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by pms247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋