We have 6 children all grown and gone. We have adopted our grand daughter, she's 5. I have 3 dogs that give me peace and contentment. All of them are very well behaved (I'm a follower of the dog whispper). One dog is my outside dog and the other 2 are inside. He doesn't like dogs. He says it's because he was bitten by one a long time ago. He totally hates them in the house and, if looks could kill, they would be dead. These are my only friends that give me constant relief from the stress I have from living under his dominence. I'm a strong woman and I don't put up with abuse. He tried once 28 years ago and, after I broke his nose, I told him if he ever did that again... don't go to sleep! That statemet has worked for me but not for our last son, our grand daughter, or my dogs. I keep giving him hints as to what will happen if he hits them or her again but he's not listening. I'm afraid to leave. Money issues and my health are holding me back. Any advice?
2006-08-06 07:01:11 · 7 answers · asked by makamaepohaku 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should seek legal counsel being married that long to someone should have benefits and if he is hurting the grand child and she shouldnt be in that environment plus you could get in trouble for that, talk to one of your children and see if you could stay with one of them, im not very close to my mother but if she needed to stay with me i would be more than happy to let her stay good luck
2006-08-06 07:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly have a VERY difficult situation to live with, huh?
I don't think or feel that anyone (here) will be able to counsel you in a helpful way, for a few reasons. . .
No one else knows enuf details about you, or your situation.
If your partner has been behaving this way for a long time, you won't be able to encourage or force him to stop, unless or until you have some outside intervention (police or social services), or - you choose to live separately from him.
You say your last son is grown and gone - but was abused.
Your granddaughter needs to NOT be there, if he lays one finger on her - or yells at her. You know that this is abuse (you know what abuse is here, at Yahoo) and - since you accepted the position of adopted parent - it is NOW YOUR responsibility to create and maintain a safe and secure environment for this little one to live in. . .same for your pets.
You MUST work this out - for your sake, the benefit of your grandaughter, and your dependent animals. . . Best wishes to you in making your decisions. No one else can do it for you.
2006-08-09 19:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce amicably, not with threats to break noses. If he is a dominant person then so are you. Two captains cannot steer the same ship. After 28 years of relation it is either him or the dogs and granddaughter. Believe me a logical settlement shall save you both and your nerves too. Good Luck to you both.
2006-08-06 14:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about the children you have who are out of the house? Do they know what is going on? Can you call them and ask for help?
I am sure they will not turn their backs on you.
2006-08-06 14:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you did along all those years, may be comming days are warst if you leave him
good luck
2006-08-06 14:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by boiling boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the guy rich or are you a masocist? if not, get out of it. why do you let your loved ones be abused and that includes the dogs? its your responsibility to protect them too.
2006-08-06 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one duh
2006-08-06 14:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Catchaworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋