How can you say that your wedding night is "special "if you are not a virgin on your wedding night?

Question

The Love Making will be the same. The only thing different is that you have the same last name.

Were if you are a virgin ( which I was at the age of 28.) it is very special. It is your first time in the arms of your husband. You have never seen each other naked before. You don't know what you are doing and know it is up to him to teach you.
That is much more special don't you think??? I don't understand why anyone would not want to save them selves for their husband/wife. Love Makeing is so special and wonderful is should only be done with your husband/wife.

I was a virgin on my wedding night. I was 28 years old when I got married on July 7, 2001.

I have a very high sex drive ( we make love 2-5 times a day, 3-5 times a week) I just choose to wait until my wedding night. I did it for 2 reasons.
#1. I didn't want to bring a child into this world with out being married. Birth Control dose not 100% of the time. Not having sex does.
2#. I am adopted. I do not want to be anything like the whore who gave birth to me. She was easy & slept with a guy who said he loved her & was going to marry her. ( she told me what happened. She was not raped just plain stupid and at the age of 22 should have know better! AKA: She is a whore)
I am nothing like that woman. I will never be like that woman. I will never hate my kids( she hated me from the time she found out she was pregnant.)
I am twice the woman she will ever be.

Answer 1

WOW! I guess you are just BETTER than the rest of us! LOL!!!! Whatever.

Answer 2

You must first understand that you have engaged in one of the most difficult task in today's society. Sex is has degraded from a moral responsibility to an expression of love making thru advertising, dancing, and fashion. I agree with you whole heartedly as the way you went about marriage, but understand that being an overachiever just isolates you from mainstream society making interaction or understanding a difficult task for others. Others who look at this different are not wierd or wrong, just hold beliefs that work for them. Most young men today have a greater sensation the more sexual encounters experienced, thus have great skill in love making and pleasing their partner. On the otherhand, young women are less likely to keep the attraction, passion, and high intimate levels with less experience or skill in love making. Depending on personalities, teaching and showing will be pleasing to those who enjoy growth and relational direction. It depends on how one feels about being isolated from society where most people feel more accepted, belonged, or loved by conforming to others in their environment. You did good and wish someone could give you an award besides God and your husband! :) Take it easy and good luck on marriage!

Answer 3

The truth is that many people do not have a great time their first time.

And by the way, does this question apply equally to men and women?

Much to much emphasis is put on the wedding and wedding night and not enough on preparation for marriage. That is hard work. Marriage that lasts is not a fairy princess deal. That doesn't mean that a wedding night would not be special.

Answer 4

I can most assuredly agree with your observation. Furthermore, there is no sense of guilt riding on your relationship, as the witness of Community and GOD are vital to enabling the two partners to share their new relationship.
For those who have previously indulged, it is more a legality given to the relationship, one that specifies that there is a sharing of all the property rights pertaining to that marriage. Of course, there is no "Special" feeling after a wedding ceremony, nor is there a uniqueness to new discovery of the wonderful experience already discovered.
We can thank modern sexual revolution for demeaning the wedding experience by giving wholesale consent to premarital experience. Speaking for myself, my wife and I were both virgins. Guess what else that does? It usually assures both partners that they are clean, disease free and the children will probably be healthy at birth. THAT is a most agreeable knowledge and well worth the self denial it required. Sincerely

Answer 5

That is right. wonderful. I just wish the younger generation would understand that. You are right, the only thing that makes it special is that you are husband and wife and in a romantic honeymoon place. but it is not as romantic and special as it would be if you waited. Take it from me. i married a guy out of guilt because he made me and held me down and I was so young and Naive that I believed him when it said he did it because he loved me. It ruined any love for me and the honeymoon was miserable. After my divorce I met a guy who waited. (I didn't think there were any of those.) We are married now but because of my mistake I feel I ruined it for him. It is sad. I advise anyone to wait until they are married.

Answer 6

I agree with you, I was also virgin at the time of my wedding nigt at the age of 30,even though I am a guy and my wife was virgin too at the time of wedding so its really special to me.Its a matter of Trust and love which you share with your partner after wedding.All the best for your family....God bless you.

Answer 7

Your wedding night is special no matter what. It is the first night of your life-long commitment to each other. There is a new bond between you then. It doesn't matter if you have done it before, the wedding night is different. It is romance, excitement, love, passion, commitment all rolled into one fantastic night.

You don't need to preach to people here. They already have formed their opinion about sex before marriage. Don't try to scare them into your narrow-minded ideals by making them think their wedding night will not be special.

Answer 8

I agree with physandchemt, Your wedding night is your wedding night. It will be special no matter if you are a virgin or not. For me it was painful my first time, I would think that waiting untill my wedding night would have been less special due to the pain

Answer 9

My first time having sex was not "special" at all, it hurt like hell and I had no idea what I was doing. I think if I got married now it would be a lot more special because my boyfriend and I know what feels good to us.

Answer 10

So, what is the real question? Do you just want praise for remaining a virgin until you were 28? What is your point here??? This is only your opinion, sweetie, and I am sure there will be a special place for you in heaven!

Answer 11

You cant marry virgin girls. For one big reason.....after a girl loses her virginity, for a while the only person they want to have sex with is that first guy, but then after a few years, no matter how good the sex is, they want to "wander" and explore other guys.....I know this from my experience with virgin girls...