My boyfriend and I are both from very large families and if we invite everyone and have a church wedding and reception it will cost us a fortune. Do you think elopement is a good idea?
2006-08-06 06:45:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why not, but let me offer an alternative
Tell everyone that your are getting married on a cruise ship, but that if they want to attend the wedding they will have to pay their own way, of course most won't pull out the money, but if they do then they can come. A ship wedding is wonderful and look at it this way you will have your wedding and honeymoon all in one. Any one that does attend your wedding will have their own room and they won't be a bother to you, just a suggestion, but yes if you want to elope then go for it,and congratulations
2006-08-06 06:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is charge everyone that comes to the wedding. Set up a ticket counter at the entrance to the church, and have some promotions, like kids under 5 get in with a paying adult. Figure out what the wedding will cost, divide by number of guests, and charge 5 buckss a ticket more than cost. Also you could charge for parking, and include valet parking. This way you come out way ahead.
By the way, reserved seating, the first four rows, goes for way more, and if you want to hawk food and drink during the ceremony, the mark-up is usually 400%. Make sure you can accept credit card payments, cause most of the guests won't have a lot of cash.
So don't elope, cash in baby
2006-08-06 06:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by paulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, some vocabulary: you are not eloping. Eloping is running away together, with no one but you two knowing your plans. You will be having a private ceremony if you include your families. Just keep that in mind. What you're describing is just fine! Get married wherever - in your backyard, at the courthouse, at a church - and have whatever biblical and traditional elements you like. Take your guests out to dinner at a nice restaurant (whoever is hosting the wedding pays for the rest of the guests), or have a small reception with cake and punch at your home or the church in a spacious room, which you can decorate with your crafts. It would be perfectly reasonable to wear a dress and have the cake, as long as your guests are present for both the ceremony and reception and they are on the same day. You can search all over the internet for crafts. Maybe do some pretty flower arrangements; if fresh flowers are too expensive, you can use dried ones, make ones out of paper, etc. There are also a lot of lovely things you can do with mason jars. You can make your own lanterns out of paper, twine, etc., or create beautiful centerpieces and decorations using candles. I personally think theme weddings are over-the-top, and even more so in the case of a small, intimate wedding like yours; just pick some pretty decorations in colors you like, spend a few rainy afternoons putting them together, and set them up meaningfully in whatever venue you choose. Don't worry about it looking cheap; just pay attention to the little details and it will be perfect and special to you, your fiance, and your families. Or, if you go to a restaurant as your "reception," there's not even a need to decorate - you'll just be at the restaurant, perhaps in a private room if you are able to reserve that.
2016-03-27 01:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think elopement is a great idea. It is a small romantic wedding for just the two of you (and any friends you want to tell.) Gatlinburg, TN has beautiful chapels set into the mountains which provide a love spot to get married. You just have to stop by the county court house to get your marriage license first.
My 24 year old daughter swears that she will not have a big wedding. She thinks it is crazy to spend all that money for a big show. She wants to elope and save the money for a down payment on a house.
My sister and her husband eloped to Gatlinburg, TN. They have all kinds of pictures and videos of the wedding. It was beautiful.
2006-08-06 06:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah probably, you might offend some family members. But if you have like a reception afterwards ( like a month or so after - sending out invites ) You could escape the high wedding cost.
2006-08-06 07:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by banjo_mccain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would elope less because of the cost and more because of the pressure of making it the perfect day - spontaneous marraige appeals to my romantic side.
Also, you can have a small blessing ceremony afterwards for close family - this wouldn't need the finery but would give them the ceremony and most importantly - some form of celebration!
2006-08-06 07:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent idea, maybe something wild + fun in Vegas. The expense of feeding a host of relatives on a big bang wedding can leave you cash strapped after the wedding. Go for it + make the day your own
2006-08-06 09:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpeachmummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would save money but you just have to think how many people you are going to hurt in the process. There are ways of getting married on a budget and having your family there.
2006-08-06 06:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by MuddyRadish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get married without a party. No, do not elope - it will only
bring you problems which could spoil your family/friends relationships.
2006-08-06 08:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to ask yourself is will you regret it later on.
Why don't you have a small wedding with immediate family and then a big party.
2006-08-06 08:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by aliviel27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋