I am in a solid relationship with a man who loves me very much and whom I love very much. We live in the same city, but for job, school, and other logistical/practical reasons we don't live together yet and we may not move in together until December, but not later than December. That's pretty much when circumstances will allow us to comfortably live together. We are talking about getting married before December, but I'm afraid of what other may think about us being married but not living together, even if it's only temporary. What do you think? Is it a crazy idea?
2006-08-06 05:36:31 · 12 answers · asked by carobygirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not an elaborate wedding, maybe courthouse or Vegas
2006-08-06 05:45:04 · update #1
Would it be an elaborate wedding or more of something to have the two of you be legal? Would it be a financial decision to help with school or something, or because you love each other? If it's going to be an elaborate wedding, I think I'd wait until after you move in together. Either way, you'll have 2 big things happening very close to one another. Don't let other peoples thoughts make your decision. If you want to be married before then, even though you can't live together, that's okay!
2006-08-06 05:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have your priorities in more order than half of the population. It's not weird at all. The two of you are building a very solid foundation for the two of you. You both sound like you've got your heads on straight.
If the two of you are comfortable with the way things are, then ignore everyone else and do what you got to do.
Look at it this way, if one or the other ever has to travel out of town for long, or short periods of time, you will already know how to handle it, and be okay with the separation time.
It makes you love each other that much more.
Good Luck.
2006-08-06 10:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been together for 7 years now, and have 3 beautiful children. However, we have only been married for 10 months. Even though it took us a while to get married, we both knew it would eventually come. When it did arrive, it was blissfully sweet, especially because we both knew already that we were made for each other. We have lived together ever since we started dating, and all it has done is bring us closer.
It doesn't matter how other people view your relationship, only how you feel about it. We recieved alot of disinclination from family and friends, but we survived it. You will to if you are determined to make it work.
good luck :)
2006-08-06 05:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey stop caring about what other people think, it is your life and if it works for you and your man then who gives a sh*t what everyone else thinks. get married and be happy, if every ones opinion matters that much then just tell people you live together, and don't have company untill after December. December will be here before you know it.
2006-08-06 06:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in together and get married later.
Get married and move in together later.
I think the latter is more socially acceptable and actually a little
bit unique in today's world. Go for it. You guys get to do the honeymoon early and the carry over the threshold thing latter.
Sounds like a plan......
And no I'm NOT a woman. I just could not resist to answer.
2006-08-06 05:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why would you give a ratsa$$ what anyone thinks?
Go to Vegas, get married and save money vs a stupid wedding. Sounds like you two are off to a solid start.
2006-08-06 05:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with getting married with out living together! Have a beautiful Christmas wedding! And enjoy your lives together.
2006-08-06 06:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love each other and care for each other. Marriage will be an extension of your love, which has lasted this long even though your apart. Nothing can change that. Don't let what people may think keep you from marrying the man you love. Its your life not theirs.
2006-08-06 05:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by zoe112799 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey....whatever you do is your business...........Why in the world tho are you going to married and not live together....you talk about living "comfortably" but the last time I checked ....2 ppl can run one household better than they can run 2 households.
2006-08-06 05:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If you two want to do it, then do it.
2006-08-06 05:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by peaceful_sorceress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋