2006-08-06 05:18:10 · 18 answers · asked by jimo7507 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think Woody Allen said, "Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand."
2006-08-06 05:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find the cause. There could be a medical reason. Some medications effect your sex drive. If she's older than maybe she has started the change of life.
Stress can play a big role also. Taking care of children, her job etc.
If none of these applies there are many ways of spicing up your love life. Women's biggest erogenous zone is their mind. Renting mushy or sexy movies. "Sliver" "Nine and 1/2 weeks" things like that. Also at Barnes and Nobles they have books about sex. They even have a book that has separate but coinciding envelopes with ideas you can try.
Sex can become routine sometimes for women. Try not initiating sex. Just cuddle, kiss maybe a full body massage. Letting her know you don't expect anything. You just want to make her feel good. If she feels she doesn't have to perform. she make relax some and in turn get turned on. Just by your touch. all else fails they have counseling. Good Luck
2006-08-06 05:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out, honestly and frankly, why she is not interested...be prepared for some hard truths..do not get upset in this conversation, for that will make her clam up and you will not further your cause. It may be you and your technique, it may be her and her hormones...who knows at this point...certainly you don't. IF open communication doesn't help, then I suggest counciling...perhaps she will open up there. Again, be prepared for some ugly truths to surface. But that is what it is all about...learning how to live with each other, etc. There are a few people who really just don't like sex. Not many, but a few. Women, often after a hysterectomy, lose interest in sex. Hormone replacement therapy can help, but not always. Have you greatly changed in appearance? IF so, and if she can be honest, perhaps she will tell you...there are gyms that will put you back in shape. Some people cannot have fun in bed with someone who turns them off...Good luck
2006-08-06 05:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so common and it also goes both ways the man not interested. Some woman after they have kids all they needed from a man is complete and sex is just an inconvienience some woman have hormonal problems and lose interest. My wife is the least sexual person I know. Sure we have three kids but after the last kid (7 years ago) sex became a chore she isnt interested in but every other month.
2006-08-06 09:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is part of the relationship. There is obviously something else occuring in the relationship that is detering the mood for making love. Perhaps its the mood, romance, and flirting nature that you had before you got married, had kids, etc. Try something different, ask her on a date, like sending her a note, email, text message to meet you somewhere. Try something different like a weekend getaway. Or perhaps its just as simple as asking her, whether there is a problem that she hasn't told you about, and what you can do to resolve that matter. Sometimes withholding making love is a way of telling you there is a bigger problem.
2006-08-06 05:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Gilligan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that you are not interested in having sex with her. Then if you are willing to wait a week or so, start doing little things, like flowers, candy, cards, offering to do housework, give her a massage at night and then roll over and go to sleep with out soliciting her for sex. Even if she wants it, make her wait. Tell her "no" I can tell you are tired and I just wanted you to enjoy the massage. If you can do this and be patient about it; eventually, we all want what we can't have. In her case that would be YOU!!!
2006-08-06 06:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by perfectprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - talk to her, tell her how you feel and ask her what's going on. It could be something you've not considered - like stress, pain etc.
Second - Go buy the book Kama Sutra (seems like I'm always suggesting this...) and tell her you want to spend more time with her in the bedroom (and outside the house too!) and then tell her you want to be closer to her and maybe this book can help - (but holy crap dude, this book will forsure help...) and in the off chance that something in this book can't get her going, then perhaps you two should seek professional help (doctor or councilor)
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-08-06 05:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her flowers, romance her, take her out to dinner? Suprise her in little ways. Try to bring back some of the spark that went missing? Take a walk or something and hold hands? Just a few thoughts :) Good luck!
2006-08-06 05:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sitting down and your wife what you could do to help her get back into her romantic side. and if that doesn't work maybe y'all could try going to a sex therapist. but if that is not available in your area you could try getting romantic with your wife in other locations. try somewhere kinda risky. i know that sounds dangerous but it could be that your wife feels like she is a rut. or she could be feeling down on herself and not sexy anymore. if that's the case try taking her a a lingerie` shopping trip. that might be all the encouragement she needs. good luck and i hope you and your wife can reconnect together.
2006-08-06 06:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by trina k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your wife. A marriage without sex is just a convenient sham for her benefit.
2006-08-06 08:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋