Got rapped up in building business and other personal issues and I left my Wife sort of alone with the exception of her mother. Now her Mom has basically taken the spot that I should have been filling. She also has a male friend that she chats with that gets me insecure and I know its my fault. I guess that my question is this fixable Because I see the errors of my ways and want nothing more than our marriage to work. Is patients the answer?
2006-08-06 05:06:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think multiple orgasms are the answer here buddy...you need to remind your wife why its you she picked to begin with....
take a weekend trip just the two of you..reconnect....get those old feelings of love back to the surface....
2006-08-06 05:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting her know that you realize what has happened. Has she mentioned it to you? Bring her flowers. If you have kids, ask her mom to watch them and take your wife out to dinner. Let her know how much you appreciate her for doing everything while you've been so busy with work. Tell her how much you love her for beig there and supporting you(if she's been doing that) while you've been working hard on building a solid financial life for your family.
There's a book called the Five Love Languages by Chapman. It's a little religious, but it helps you figure out what your love language is, and what your spouses live language is. That way you know exactly what to do to help fill her 'love tank' faster. If I can remember them, they're 1) Words of affirmation 2) Physical touch 3) Receiving gifts 4) Quality time 5) Acts of service
Learning your wifes love language may help you fix things faster.
Good luck!
2006-08-06 05:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your marriage fixable? absolutely. My husband gets tied up in his business as well and it will cause a women to turn away, feel unwanted, feel like the business is more important, etc. What you should do is get her a nice card and fill the card with your own words, tell her that you see where the business has been taking your time and tell her that you love her and so on. Tell her from your heart. Get her flowers and send the card with the flowers to her. And find more time for her, just her, no tv on , no phone calls to answer, you get the idea....and good for you for seeing what is wrong and trying to fix it. Good luck
2006-08-06 05:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if she even wants to work things out. It sounds like she is moving on with her life and you may be too late. You need to try get her alone to talk to her and see if there i still a chance that she wants to work things out. It's almost always fixable if you both are willing to put the effort into it.
2006-08-06 06:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her ur true feelings. Do something special for her. Draw a bubble bath or something for her. let her know just how much you love her and that you are there for her and that you wanna give 100% back into the marriage, tell her that is you start to neglect her again she has to make you aware and that you will do whatever it takes to make your marriage work!!!
Best of luck
2006-08-06 05:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by â?¥â?¥à®earlesinlaces? ??? *´¨`??.¸¸.??´¨`* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a rare find busy guy at least you see the errors of your ways and are willing to fix them. Tell her how you feel just like you explained to us here on line, admit your falts and tell her you want to make it right by her. Good luck your a rare find. If after all that she still doesn't see and except the changes your willing to make then its her loss.
2006-08-06 06:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by pinkylee-35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big one is to admit you were wrong to her...not us. That will help out right there. Most men will never admit they are wrong no matter what. Then some really good make-up sex does a good job. You might also want to buy some flowers and a really thoughtful card.
2006-08-06 06:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know you still love her do not just tell her show her how specail she is to you my husband does the same thing all a woman wants is someone to love us and make nus feel beautiful and sexy and alive listen to her when shew talks to you put in feed back yes it may take time but if it is true love she will come around unless you have cheated on her . this may be more difficult for her to forgive
2006-08-06 05:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by mamal3babygirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to be open to ur wife and keep on telling her how much u love her, why not start sending her flowers when she's not expecting it... or surprise her by going home early and bringing her out for a date or just by leaving a simple note telling her how much u love her... or better yet, bring her out of town for a weekend getaway... guess, the flame will keep on burning if u will continue to try... it's not patience but it's about love and respect... if u don't have both of them, it's time to let go...
2006-08-06 05:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sapphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's fixable but may take a little time. Show her that you missed her, that you're sorry and that you want to make it work...
and don't do it again!!! ;)
2006-08-06 05:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋