Girlfried & I jst finished sex & she said she was spending the nite with her EX. What would U do if U were me

Question

I was still having an orgasm & no less that 3 seconds later she said she was goona spend the weekend in SanDiego with her ex.
2 weekends before she supprised me & came over at 4:00 am & told me she was going to drive down to see her EX boyfriend. She left around 1:00 pm got there at 3:00 pm & didn't answer her phone after she got there. She call me at 11:00 pm & said she was on the way home. We had a big fight & then went to sleep. She wanted to have sex when we woke up, and when we did, she kept moving into positions I was not used too. Also, she was masturbating before I woke up. I Acording to her, her Ex was very, very well endowed. I went soft inside her because I freaked out. She was moving so differently and was soooo streched out that It didn't feel very good for me.
I accused her of cheating & she swears she didn't... She says the dildo streched her out, but I am bigger that the dildo.
Am I dumb for even asking for advice or should I have dumped her a log time ago???

Answer 1

dude thats a red flag. i'm sorry but y would she want t o spend the weekend with her ex anyways? i mean especially if she has u. i don't think thats sounds right at all. no matter how close friends u and your ex are there is no reason whats so ever to spend a weekend w/the person. she could have visited him with u with her. good luck i hope all goes well for u. i do think she is lieing. especially if she was way differentin bed before she left.

Answer 2

Wow, you need to figure out if this is something that you want to try and work through. Do you love her? Do you trust her? The two usually go hand in hand. I would put a nix on the ex's spending the weekend together.....tell her how much that upsets you and it makes you feel uncomfortable...any normal person would be able to see why that would upset you. If she loves you, or at least respects you, then she will not spend time with him anymore if she knows it hurts you so much. If she doesn't care then I would let her go. Besides, if she is fooling around with her ex, then what if she gets something from him and gives it to you? Would you be okay with that? Probably not, so I hope you are being safe as far as the sex goes.
That was the politically correct answer. Now, if this were me? I wouldn't put up with it at all.

Answer 3

the real ? is do u love her...... and if u do then try to work things out and tell her how u feel and what u said about u being bigger than the dildo. if u dont love her then find someone else cause it sort of sounds weird cause why would she even go to see her ex

Answer 4

I guess the biggest question is why the heck would you allow your girlfriend to go spend ANY time, let alone an ENTIRE weekend, with her ex???????? It really sounds like she is up to something. Stop being silly and put an end to all this b.s. she is making you go through.

Answer 5

I think it is a difficult situation. She does not know what she wants and you should not be her puppet. Just ask her straight what is it that she wants. If she does not want to be with ONLY you, then dump her and move on. There is a lot fish in the ocean.

Answer 6

from what you are describing, she definetly looks guilty she is most definetly cheating on you sorry to say, nobody goes over to thier ex's house to jus chat and even if she was only talking to him it's still wrong!!!!!!!!!!!! get rid of that *****!

Answer 7

It's time to question your relationship.What do you want? what does she want? where do you as a couple go from here?

Answer 8

u should be happy, she didn't charge u for sex...... its quite expensive
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