how can i have good sex and passion with my husband?

Question

I got married 2 years ago and and we don't have good sex , we have sex just like once per month, I always want to have it but he doesn't and is very hard to seduce him, he told me that he doesn't feel passion for me. but I really love him and I want to change it.

Answer 1

Get couseling and get the spark into your life!!!

Answer 2

Did he feel the passion for you before the two of you were married? If he didn't then I don't understand why you tied the knot with him! Marriage is a partnership. When the two of you can relate & accomplish beautiful things together, then that is showing that your hearts are blending together and that the two of you are becoming as one and that you truly love and want to be together for the rest of your lives! But if there was never any passion, or anything else for that matter, that might have been missing, then the two of you should have never married in the first place!
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 3

If your husband says he has no passion for you, then you really do have a problem! It is sad to think that your spouse feels this way about you. It would be a great idea for you to find out when your husband started feeling this way and what changed withing your marriage? Is he seeing someone else? Once a month for sexual intimacy just seems a little strange for a man who says that he has no passion for you, so the possibility of him having sex outside of your marriage, is a very real but unpleasant thought.

Answer 4

You need to ask him if he is in love with you. If you are intimate only once a month, maybe he has someone on the side, maybe, don't jump to conclusions, but let's be realistic here. You have only been married for two years, have intercourse once a month, and he doesn't want to do it with you! (signs of a Red Flag).

He might have someone on the side. You need to seriously sit down with him, and have a deep discussion about the way you both feel toward one another. Ask him how does he really feel about you emotionally, and physically.

Ask him is he still physically attracted to you, if not, what changed. Find out the root of the problem, do not try to hinder it by just seducing him, especially if he is not feeling you anymore.

Explain how you feel, and that you have needs that need to be met, by him because he is your husband and he should make some time to spend it with you, not only at home, but outdoors as well. See if you two can schedule dates together here and there.

Try to find a way to rekindle your relationship, and ask him to put some effort into the relationship as well. But it sounds to me like you both need a heart to heart talk and you need to get all your cards on the table..

Talk about it without making it into an argument. Watch his body language, hands and eye movement, his reactions should be obvious according to the questions you ask him concerning his change in behavior toward you.

But see what is bothering him and take it from there..all in all, be honest with your thoughts and feelings with him and see how he responds back to you...

Good luck with your attempt to figure this problem out, hope it works out for you, if anything, do not short change yourself...

Answer 5

just some thoughts. Have you changed a bit in the last 2 year or is he working 60-80 hours a wek between things at the houe and at work? When i worked 70 hour weeks I had problems too. Dress sexy for him in what ever taste he likes and even wake him up with a little foreplay. Like said a little something out of the ordinary is good. But both need to try and give other attention it just does not work one way.

Answer 6

Trust me when I tell you this. I was in the same situation but the roles were reverse. It may be something a lot deeper than you think. In my case I felt dirty like some whore that was picked up. There was never any foreplay or after play. After it was over I would roll over and cry. Wham-bam-thank you mame does not for for either sex. Its all the same we can all hurt deep inside. I would suggest a lot more playing around before the actually act of sex. Also more important ASK your partner how he really feels deep in his heart. Make him search deep. Sorry for whats happening to you. Ill keep you on my mind. GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!!!!

Answer 7

If the relationship is otherwise good, consider that there may be a physiological cause for his low sex-drive. Maybe he suffers from depression or anxiety? Maybe he has low testosterone. My husband went through the same thing...he had a sleep disorder and was just too tired. All that time I thought it was me! Consider marriage counseling too...sex brings up so much emotional junk.

Answer 8

well if he doesnt feel passion for you then what does that tell you!!! Im sorry but i wouldnt stick around for that crap. Id ask him so who do you have passion for? he is more then likely cheating on you. but before you cheat on him get a divorce first! and if you dont have any kids now would be the time to get out of there. good luck hun

Answer 9

Find out what he finds sexy. If he was like this before you were married, than this may just be his sex level. If his sexual behavior has diminished, you should have a talk to him about it and find out why it has. A good sexual relationship is quite important to a marriage, in my opinion.

Answer 10

Well first things first... If he isn't getting it from you odds are hes getting it somewhere else. If not the case he may have a medical problem or stress... Have you suggested counseling? Express your feelings make it plain and simple if he doesn't care about keeping you happy you will find someone who will... This isn't your problem it's his. Good luck...

Answer 11

I want a complete life with my spouse. mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and sexually. Maybe you were mislead that your sex life will get better. I'd opt for counseling or seeking another suitor ro live out the rest of your days with.