me and my friends K and C are afraid that my friend J will be mad at us. she gets mad so easy and doesnt forgive easy either. we dont tell her a lot of stuff becase we are scared she will get mad at us. its holding back terrible secrets. and when she does get mad she says the meanest things just to hurt us. its tearing our firnedship apart. what do me and my friends do?
2006-08-06 03:47:13 · 2 answers · asked by teehee311 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is the very reason why I hated high school so flippin much! I am so sorry that you and K and C are going through this!
I am an old one...35! So I am fully aware that times have changed but if you can take anything from me and my experiences I would hope that it would be this: true friends do not get so mad at each other that they verbally hurt one another! So, it is totally OK to walk away from the friendship with J....HOWEVER this may be the only way she knows how to handle relationships. Does J have a good home life? I mean, do her folks fight all the time? Do they say hurtful things? She may not even be aware that she is acting this way. Also, hurting someone else they way she does is a HUGE sign of insecurity!
I think that the 3 of you girls should all sit down with J and tell her you all have some things you would like to talk to her about. Set some ground rules right off the bat (for example, everyone is allowed to speak first before any one else reacts.....no interupting......no name calling......etc) and tell her. True friends want to see each other grow and succeed, not find safety in their own personal insecurities. I would bet good green money that J is terribly insecure and/or doesn't like herself very much.
Be a good friend. Show her how a real friend acts and face her. Confrontation is very intimidating! If you would like some help with your word choices, you and your friends can email me and I will help you the best I can......I have 4 kids (18,16,8 &2) plus I work with teens as a "life coach" . Good luck and you are a wonderful person and friend for being so concerned!
2006-08-06 04:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 12:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by omparsad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋