What should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and i live together with his parents and he has a serious drug problem. last night he went off and stayed out all night smoking crack and came home and raised he**! I talked with my mom and she said i could come home but I am scared to leave. scared that he might hurt me. what should I do? Please help!!
Thank you

By the way........... he does not work!!

Answer 1

Babygirl, leave. Go home, and get a restraining order. Call the police and tell them that you are scared and they will tell how to get one where you live. Go now, before something does happen. Be honest with your family about the drugs, so they can be on the watch out for him. You don't need this sweetie! You don't deserve this. I am proud that you call your Mom, that took some guts. Now, move on. Wait till he leaves, and then take what you can and get out. Don't tell him you are going if you are scared of what he might do. If he starts in on you, call 911 and the police will help you. He needs help, and it's going to take something big for him to see it, and this just might it. Does his parents know? Do they approve? But if he doing crack, he could be dangerous, and I don't want you to get hurt. He's all ready mental abusing you! Make your plans, so when he goes out today....leave..tell Mom to be ready to come and get you at a moments notice. Or met at some place close. Things can be replace if you can't get all your belongings, but you can't. Please be careful, and I will be praying for you. God bless us all.........

Answer 2

Leave. In a relationship like this it's about him wanting pity from you so you will stay tied to him and taking care of him. And if he jut got high last night then I'm guessing he's not in any type of rehab for his problem.
Look hun. This relationship isn't going to amount to **** as long as he's getting high on crack with a bunch of selfish ego maniacs. And look you live with him AND his parents. Don't you want some one responsible enough to live alone with?
See, the way I see it is this: if he loves you and values your relationship, he's should get into rehab and get clean bc his behavior is hurtful to you and the people who care about him, He's a selfish person for putting people who care through such drama. He's too immature for you. His need for self gratification has become a serious addiction and he's doing nothing to help end it.
And he doesn't have a job...WTF ARE U DOING WITH THIS GUY??? WASTING YOUR YOUNG LIFE HOPING YOU CAN SAVE HIM OR SOMETHING??? SNAP OUT OF IT. SAVE YOURSELF.
AND YOU SAY YOUR SCARED TO LEAVE BC HE MAY TRY AND HURT YOU!
You poor girl I BEG you to please get out of this relationship. If you are scared he will hurt you then get a restraining order or something! BUT YOU HAVE GOT TO LEAVE HIM IF HE DOESN"T GO INTO REHAB. PLEASE IF YOU HAVE ANY SENSE YOU WILL FIND A WAY! THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY MY FRIEND.

Answer 3

Fortunately you have a place to go home too. I would take advantage of it. From what you described, he does not care about you all. If he is not in a drugged up state, I would tell him that you are leaving him and get out of that relationship. Do this in a public place where there are witnesses if he threatens you or have an police officer ( depending on your local) to be near or present when you do this, get your stuff and get out. A restraining order can be placed against him by you if you still feel threatened. Remember, you are a person who needs to be treated with respect, not to play second fiddle to illegal drugs.

Answer 4

You said the boy is living with his parents? Do they know that he is an addict? And has done nothing? And he doesnt work and is a parasite on the family and you his girlfriend? Get out of the whole thing fast!!!! If you want to be with him, take him to a counselling centre for de-addiction. If you became his friend while you also were smoking the damn thing, you have no escape.....

Answer 5

you have to get away from him.
sounds like he does not love you enough to stop the drugs and needs real help. you can not help him by staying with him you will end up DEAD !!!
move back home with mom and get restraining order against him and pray he gets help before he kills himself or others.. and next time find someone who does not do drugs...
or you can call a local domestic violence shelter for help and they will take you away without letting him know where you are and protect you from him.

Answer 6

Get out now, fast. If he even attempts to hurt you, call the police. You don't need or deserve this kind of treatment. Don't tell him, leave when he isn't home so that there isn't a confrontation. Good luck

Answer 7

You need to leave its never going to get any better I think that you should plan to leave him with out him knowing but this has to be something that you want and not ever go back to Its only going to get worse before better because crack is very dominent

Answer 8

I would get out and tell his parents why. If he shows up to hurt you. .. take out a restraining order. Let the law get involved if he tries to hurt you. If he gets into too much trouble with the law.. then he may be spending some time in jail. Good luck.

Answer 9

you need to leave. that situation is not good for you. he can't take care of himself let alone take care of you. he still lives with his parents. with his drug problem, he is a burden on them already. you should go home. I am sure your mom can help you.

Answer 10

you need to leave and never look back because if he realy loved you he would stop or go in rehab i had a same sitawation i left
go home to your mom its the best thing 4 you rite now