Plz give ur thoughts: Iwas a VERY mature 17 yr,now 19&he was 27.I had just graduated & he was already established(home,3 cars,nice income.) We fell in luv after 1mnth &3mths later got engaged.We embraced the age difference&loved each other dearly. Once I went2college(down the street from his home) I stayed on dorm,&months later he proposed. Despite this he was still insecrue about me being away from him, he thought i was cheating. I was not. His insecurites lead him 2sleep with another girl LaKeevia.That next morning he was murdered by a guy who owed him $.I finally saw her at the funeral. After the funeral I found pictures of her nude,with her sons in the background as she posed nude for my fiancee.I also find outby his momhe didnt have a daughter named LAVENDAR, but that phone # in his cell belonged 2LAKEVIAthe hoe.Tho it's been a yrShould I have a talk with her I wanna no when where&how do I ask?
+How do u deal with the double grief, oversome1 who may not have been yours2begin with
2006-08-06 02:57:25 · 15 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh by the way she was 17, dropped out of high school, and already had 2 kids by 2 different men. Our neighbor told me, that the morning he got murdered he asked him "What u doing with that ugly *** girl? When ur lady at?' His reply was "Man I hope she don't find out but I need some bad, and she hasnt come home from school yet!"
2006-08-06 03:06:35 · update #1
Why would you call her a ho? You don't know if she knew about you at all. Maybe you were the one cheating with her boyfriend. He was way too old for you and he was not insecure he just knew he could make you feel sorry for him like a child would. He was a liar and a cheat. Why would you want to confront her? Leave it alone and use this as a learning experience for your next relationship. You sound more like you were obsessed instead of in love. Remember if someone is always accusing you of cheating usually it's because they are cheating and are paranoid that they will be found out and want to throw the stink off of themselves.
2006-08-06 03:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone! When he died all went with him. All that you knew of him that is.
Why go back into the past? What are you looking for? What do you want that girl to tell you? What is it that you really want to hear? That he loved you, his life improved because of you? All he ever wanted was to make you happy? Is this what you are searching for, it's not going to change the fact that he died the way he lived. Yes, it sounds cruel, however you painted a nice picture of your love the point is there was chaos in his life and you knew it!
You accepted him for what he was knowing he wasn't all that great. Leave it alone, things happen the way they do for a reason...........Move forward, finish your education!
I would like to suggest counseling, seek counseling there at the college, this will set you on the right path. Good Luck!
2006-08-13 09:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you. What a double whammy. My suggestion is stay as far away from that girl as you possibly can. You're putting your life back together it sounds to me. I know you want closure but, you don't really want to put yourself in danger to get it. I would really suggest going to counseling to try to help you over your grief. But, please don't let his death be in vein and something awful to happen to you. It sounds like he was around some bad people and you don't need that you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't let other people to have to grieve for you. Stay focused on going to college and try to be patient with your feelings. You went through a lot. Time will heal but, you will never forget but, you will still be here if you stay away from that bad and deadly situation. Good Luck!
2006-08-13 21:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by honeybee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get ahold of them all you will do is hurt more. What you are looking for is a way to blame him and them for this instead of processing your grief. None of us are perfect and we all make poor choices. Of course you are angry that this happened, but the fault lies with the person that killed him, not how he lead his life. Love his soul and not his behavior. Grieve and move on. You can't change what is done, so let it go, what he did is really none of your business. Look for more positive ways to process your grief. There are support groups that will help you to move on.
2006-08-06 10:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to contact that girl. Let by gones be by gones. Try to forget the past, find new friends and move on with your life in a positive direction. Afterall you are just starting your life.
2006-08-14 09:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, don't even waste your precious time on her. Try not to grieve over him as much either. He obviously wasn't worth your tears. He cheated on you. He betrayed you. It so happened that he got killed. I'm not saying that he got what he deserved, but you can't go around mistreating the ones you love and not suffer the consequences. What goes around comes around. Let the hoe grieve over him. You try to move on with your life. What ever he left behind goes to you, not her. She was just a quick ****. She didn't mean anything to him.
2006-08-06 10:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mary C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, just move on. It sounds as if your fiance loved you very much. Yes he was cheating and there is no excuse for that. Just grieve for the loss of your man and forget about the other girl.
I am sorry for your loss.
2006-08-14 08:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly let it go. you found out he cheated on you. and lied to you. go ahead and mourn over his death that is a sad thing, but if he really cared about you he would have never cheated on you or lied to you for this other women who turned out to be a hoe. why risk a nice person he is engaged to for a hoe. to be frank with you i dont think he really loved you the way he said he did, because he would of never did what he did. i am sorry to hear about his death, your going to hurt inside its normal he was your fiance then to find out the truth about your relationship it must be really hard. now the hardest thing you will ever have to do is to let go of him. he hurt you alot now its time to forget the past and move on. your heart will mend sooner or later and you will find that person you really deserve one that you can trust and wont hurt you and love you for who you are and only you. just let this thing go with with other girl, no need to bring up the past. the past is the past look to the future. follow your heart.
2006-08-13 16:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by girlfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your Loss, but i would not go and ask this Girl anything; She sounds like someone you do not want to have anything to do with. go out with some of your friends and meet new People. Don't dwell on the Past.
2006-08-13 22:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He died for a reason. You were never meant to be together. Move on, and forget him. Don't talk to her, she is a tramp. I am sorry to say, but he did not treat you right as well.
2006-08-13 22:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by sheba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋