Ok so I feel like this is the taboo question. My g/f of @ two years has never gone down on me. We have talked about it (many times) and she always has some reason that she can not do it. Or will say, " I was going to do it last night but ...... " ( fill in sorry reason here. I feel like it is becomming a road block in our relationship. Yes I have told her this. And she says she is going to go down soon. At this point I can't see it. So help me out here are ther wemon out there that don't like to go down on there girlfreinds? And why ? I would love to understand.
2006-08-06 02:28:51 · 8 answers · asked by THE WORLD ACCORDING TO HOW 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I used to be afraid to go down on my partners. Just did not like the taste or the positioning, so I would make up excuses. (It also took me a while to let her go down on me.) But, a friend recommended that we shower together before having sex and that way hygiene isn't an issue. We also use flavored lubes (although I don't have a problem with taste anymore) or dessert items to spice things up. As far as positioning, instead of you laying on your back as the woman goes down on you, try different positions, like sitting up on the edge of the bed with her kneeling, you could lay on your back and instead of her being between your legs, she could lay side ways which allows you to pleasure her while she is busy.
If none of this works, you may have to move on and find a new partner. I know it seems harsh, but relationships are a partnership and to have a healthy and happy bond, you both need to be satisfied intimately.
2006-08-06 02:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by lilacpoohlover 2 · 13⤊ 2⤋
It's common that some women are afraid of it.
My suggestion is to ask her to at least try it once. My mother raised me to never say I don't like something or can't do something without trying it first. (Just like with food.)
She also needs to understand that it's something you enjoy, and if she's not willing to give it a try, then maybe you'll be ok living without it; or maybe not. My gf is willing to try anything once. I love her for that. If after trying it, she doesn't like it and therefore doesn't want to do it again, I understand. We all can't like the same things.
Compromise is key. Good luck!
2006-08-06 14:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn_Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with her, find another way to have sex.
Lesbian love-making is not all about 'going down'.
I don't like it b/c it is not romantic; it can be fun for the pure sexual excitement, but overall it's too much like pleasing a college man: which is all about sex and not about 'making love'.
2006-08-06 12:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she feels funny going down on you. she wants all the pleasure of you going down on her, but she is either shy or doesn't want to. it should tell you something about her. give her an ultimatum and tell her like it is or you should go look elsewhere because it is not fair for you to give her all the pleasure she wants. a sexual relationship works 2 ways, not 1
2006-08-06 12:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by beckyschristine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is never a good thing. My gf was hesitant and one evening I went to our room and after the bath I lay on the bed. When she joined me, i told her she needs to look close and tell me why i am ugly down there. for real i cried and ask her to please touch me and make me know love is real. it took a few minutes, but she and i are best of lovers now.
2006-08-06 11:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never had that problem...2yrs is a long time to wait on her to go down on you..u have been patient..not sure why she wont just go for it, its not like its your 1st time together...she should want to taste you. good luck.
2006-08-06 10:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man thats harsh - you need to demand more loving or look elsewhere
2006-08-06 09:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by mr_soapytitwank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, can't help ya.. I'm a starting pitcher! ;)
2006-08-06 09:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Paige 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋