Why is it that when you get married your spouse seems to change; while you were dating he gave the best .?

Question

married 1 year spouse seem to have money but is broke as a joke.

Answer 1

Gone are the days fr better or worse,now its only fr better not fr worse, well hes got you , he did everything fr you to marry him now that u did, hes has nothing to loose excpet his money so he wising up and i hope he has started saving fr a rainy day, the least u can do is look at his good qualitites and the actual reason fr marrying him.

Answer 2

If a spouse changes after marriage it has nothing to do with marriage it has to do with the spouse. This person was like this to begin with they just were really good at hiding it, now they don't have to. After only 1 year get some counseling for both of you or if he won't go then you should go. You'll learn alot and you may even be able to save this marriage.

Answer 3

Because now he thinks he owns you! Now that your married maybe he thinks he doesn't have to try because he already got the girl. I don't know, try sitting him down and talking to him about it. Tell him you want to try and spice things up a bit in all aspecs of your relationship. Tell him you don't want things to go down hill after just a year of marriage. I am going through the same thing, and were not even married yet. I can't stand how he acts towards me now. He changed everything I knew about him and he is very possessive.

Answer 4

I had the same problem with my ex... he was great up until the preacher said "Do you take this woman/man to be your....?"
I said "I do" and I think he actually said "I DO not" or had his fingers crossed!!
Either way, the change in him was almost immediate. And constantly telling me I was "his" cause he "had papers on me"............ notice I said in the beginning "MY EX"

I don't know why some, and I do mean some, are like that. I have since remarried and this one is the same today as he was 8 years ago when we met. I found MY Mr. Right!!

Answer 5

Dating is only concerned with today...now..... but marriage is much more tham that. A lot of resposnibilities and obligations are involved there.You can bring his vitality back by occasionally turning out to be the girl he dated. It needs real understanding and knack to make both horses go in one direction only than two going in opposite directions. You take the reign for sometime and try to stabilise the family!!!

Answer 6

First let me preface that this goes both ways - but often what makes the guy agreat date ( alwys taking you out, buying gifts, constantly doing things fun) is not what makes a great husband. Often women date that great fun guy but after they get married they don't want the fun guy they want him instantly transformed into responsible guy. And a lot of times that just doesn't happen

Answer 7

once you get married, they don't have to impress you or anything any more. they somehow think that ring is enough to keep you.ladies do the same it's not just the guys that change. that's why you just live
with them, it's only a piece of paper that says he/she gets half of what you own even if they didn't even work during the marriage.

Answer 8

People are usually on their best behavior when they are dating. Once your married though there isn't that need to impress in order to attain bc well u've been attained. So people become less inhibited and do things they normally would have been embarrassed about.

Answer 9

When you are in love you see stars in each other's eyes...when you get married you begin to see what's beyond those stars....welcome to that part of the world where he didn't tell you about and want to surprise you with!!!

Answer 10

everyone says that getting married dont change the person but it does once you get married the man feels that he does not have to impress you anymore or wine and dine you anymore.