my husband left me about two months ago saying he was unhappy. We have two children. one 16 months and the other is 11. I am trying to be strong and move forward. Everytime I see him the feeling are still there. He hardly sees the kids, because he is too busy with his new life, and a girl friend. She is much younger than him. He is going to be forty. He walked out on me and the kids. A house with unfinished work. How long can his behavior last. He went out and bought himself a mercadise and a lincoln Navigator. He has bought him self all new clothes and even wears cologne. How could someone be such a PRICK> We have been married for 14 years and highschool sweethearts. He treats me like he doesnt even know or like me. Im the mother of his children. Im sick too my stomach over this. I dont even want to know what he is doing because it tears me up inside. Could this be a phase. He treatens me with divorce papers when he is angry with me. But has not gone through with it.
2006-08-06 02:06:11 · 15 answers · asked by carol s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get a good lawyer and file for divorce. Go for everything you can. Believe me I am a guy and I know he is playing with your mind.
2006-08-06 02:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi carol,
I'm really sorry to hear what has happened to you. But honey it sounds like he may be going through the midlife crisis part of his life. But remember in the long run you have the two most important things to come out of 14 years of marriage, the two children, these guys are not replaceable(even though us mothers seem to be). If my husband threatened me with divorce papers i'd be in there first and applying for it see if that wiped the smile of his face. Why or how can he be angry at you when he's the one shitting on the relationship. Hate to say it but sounds like you are better off without him. Would you really want him back now after what he has done?
2006-08-06 02:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the most difficult thing to turn a man around when he has changed his feelings. I felt sad for you. It seems like this is a situation of a 3rd party coming in between. You both can perhaps try counselling.
Although 40, he is still quite immature when it comes to marriage. The passionate part of love will definitely wear off gradually. It's effort of both to maintain it that way. I know what I am going to tell you is definitely easier said than done. But life has to move on and you would first need to brace up and be confident of yourself.
Get a lawyer and make sure he pays for the kids' and your maintenance. He can afford.
2006-08-06 02:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Pencil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly this happens alot he thinks hes missing out on something out there and shortly he will realize the only thing hes gonna be missing is you and the kids when those young girls use him for everything hes got. but back to you dont cheat on him and if you can help dont try to hurt him in anyway get as much dirt on him as possible go to court file for divorce he will end up paying you child support regardless if he sees the kids or not if he dont want to see him then he's a sorry excuse for a adad and i wouldnt want him back anyways how dare he take money from his family to live it up with some teeny bopper now im pissed!! you could get palimony for you since he ran out on the family maybe start seeing a counselor since you still want him to help you trhough all this because what effects you also effects the kids.go with the divorce yourself he's trying to control your life but at the same time live his elsewhere you may still love him but there are somethings that are just unforgivable and unforgetable and in my opinion this is one of them. you are a strong woman put you and the kids first if he wants out let him go but make sure you have what you need first. good luck
2006-08-06 02:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. He's not worth it. Hopefully you live in a community property state.... which do you want, the Lincoln Navigator or the Mercedes. You have kids so I would go with the Navigator. Take him for every penny you can get! Demand he pay to finish repairs on the house.
2006-08-06 02:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is the father of your kids I would dump his a*s A.S.A.P. No woman deserves to be treat rd that way He threatens you with divorce papers? Screw Him! You should be the one serving him with them Once he learns what It is gonna cost him for child support etc, I bet he will try to come crawling back to you DO Not fall for it. All this guy cares about is himself . Ki ck him to the curb the same way he did to you.
2006-08-06 02:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by bisquedog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they have stayed that blantanty he always will. Please do not give him the power to have the world at his feet. It hurts Hurts alot. Your confidence and self esteem has been shaken . Find someone to talk too. Find a way to be strong. Serve him with the papers . Show him you are strong he may respect you more in the end.
2006-08-06 02:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by soo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life sucks bad, maybe you should so concentrate on yourself, follow yr hobbies wht you might have forgotton in btw marriage and raising kids, in the interim if he so loves you deeply the passion of the younger bimbo will wear off and his midlife crises will end and then its yr descision to take him back or not.
2006-08-06 02:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really sorry to hear but its not new.l believe if someone want to walk out of your that's their decision let them go.when you know in you do what you as a wife should do don make his decision for him.i know its really hard to tell you to forget about him but my friend don't let a pity party keep you down.you will be a mother for rest of your life when you have kids.but with marriage when you're marry being a wife may not always be for the rest of your life.so take care of your kids and yourself and let mr. walker keep on walking.it takes a man to stay in there marriage and alittle boy to leave.so be strong keep your head up and pray take it oneday at atime.god bliss you.
2006-08-06 02:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should turn it over to the man thats in charge
Jesus Christ...He is the one man that can change everything!
You could even try praying for what you want he never leaves an unanswered prayer.
2006-08-06 02:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋