My wife lied to me.........Now she is three months pregnant?

Question

She told me she could never get pregnant(she said she had a Hysterectomy) ..now she is 3 months pregnant?
Thats one of the reasons i married her She knew I did not want kids ever and she agreed ..now she wont get rid of it.What can i do???????????......can I Sue her to get rid of it
I have three pitbull dog's ,They are my children .they are not too friendly with children .Can you beleve it....My wife has the nerve to ask me to get rid of my boy's(the dogs) What kind of mother would she make if you can just throw out part of your famiy members (the dogs)Should we seperate.or is there any legal action i can take.

How can i ever trust her again?

Answer 1

Sue the NUT don't be discouraged....how do you think laws we made....do it for the men.

Answer 2

She must have been desperate to get a husband. You have been deceived big time and you will pay for the next 18 years even if you get a divorce. I feel sorry for a child that will be unwanted and have a father that likes dogs over people. I can't imagine why she would want you for the father of her child. Maybe she just wanted a sperm donor. See a lawyer. Though I don't agree with you, you were honest from the beginning. You can never trust her again. Is it possible she has a mental problem. "Lothario I clicked on your picture and see that you got syphilis from a prostitute and want your wife to be a hooker. You are sicker than this man."

Answer 3

Wow................ that was a huge lie!!! No, you cannot trust her again. This is just totally wrong of her. I don't know how she could have done such a thing to you. Really that is just cold, so cold. I don't know about legal action, but really you have every reason in the world to divorce her. You were straight up with her and told her you didn't want children. So it's not like she didn't know. There are people in the world who just don't want children and there is nothing wrong with that. It's only wrong when you have children when you know you don't want any. Wow, that's all I know what to say. It shocks me that people can do such a thing. Really, I wouldn't waste time on legal action. She wants the child, so let her have the child. But I would file for divorce if I were you. This lie is just too big!

Answer 4

I agree she was wrong to lie to you. To have children is a huge decision, and it seems like you made the choice not to fairly, but were 'tricked' or misled into doing so.

However - your wife is pregnant, and she has every right to keep the baby, you can't make or force anyone to get rid of their child - even if it is yours too.

Your wife is pregnant, and in her minds eye, the baby comes first, then the dogs, or whatever else.... and that is right, that is natures way of making a good parent.

I really don't know what to suggest other than legal advice or perhaps counseling, for you both.

(Or you can both be adults, and sit down and talk about this nicely)

Answer 5

Well, the way I see it maybe this woman really loves you and that is the reason she lied to you. She didn't think you would be with her if she said she wanted children. You did say that one of the reasons that you married her is because she didn't want children either. Also, if you really didn't want children you could have always went and got fixed yourself. Then you would have known for sure that you couldn't have gotten anyone pregnant.

I feel really sad for you though. Anyone that would want to get rid of their own flesh and blood really has no heart. You may feel differently once you hold the baby in your arms. Just knowing that you helped create something so beautiful.

Answer 6

well, she shouldn't have ever lied to you about something so serious, however what is done is done. The baby shouldn't be (as you say it) "gotten rid of"!! If you don't want children, which you have made very clear that you don't, then you need file for a divorce and leave, make sure to take your "boys" with you. When the baby is born you should be able to sign over all your rights to the baby.

Answer 7

She was wrong to lie to you. I can feel for her wanting to get rid of the dogs. Suggesting an abortion was not rude as you are a part of the child as she is... but it is still her desicion.. you are entitled to your opinion.
What Im wondering is if you are so dead set against having children why dont/didnt you get a vasectomy?
All I can suggest is that you seperate. You dont want kids.. fine. Pay up and let her go .. in 10 years or less .. be prepared to tell the child why you didnt want to be a part of their life.

Answer 8

I'd file for divorce. The marriage was started, based at least in part, on a major lie. No woman is confused about IF she had a hysterectomy. Yup, she will get support for your child. I see no reasonable way you could ever trust this woman.

Answer 9

She shouldn't take over ur life and no one deserves this,how would she like it if you told her that ur gonna sleep with another women and have her children and leave her.

Lies and not good in marriage and no need to stay with her, she should know that...remember you have a choose coz she is pregnant doesn't mean she gets what she wants.

Ask her why she lied about not able to have a child.
Ask her what she wants from you.
Ask her that if you marry her, it shouldn't be about the child.
it should be about passion and love to one and other.
Don't listen to her...you have ur own choose okay...Do what you think is best.
Or wirte down the reason u want to marry her or why not too.
The one with the most reasons...follow.

Answer 10

Well i think so here exist something miss ,no clear between u and ur wife (Comunication)...but if u get the point of vew of human a baby is a blessing in ur life try to see the good face of this trouble God wanted and gave u this oportunity for both of you for any reason ....maybe for be a real family ...Good Luck !!!!

Answer 11

you married her without KNOWING her medical history!? dude, you DESERVE what you get.

you could try to sue her for something, but, honestly, i don't think anything would come of it.

i TOTALLY AGREE with you about the babies you already have, however why have dogs who don't get along with children? do they like adults? i mean , i understand that kids get that high pitched voice that hurts dogs ears and they (kids) are high strung and some dogs don't deal well with it, but to have dogs TO NOT be friendly with children.......? there's something wrong.

you two need to get your crap together and figure out what is going to be best for THIS CHILD. no matter what your personal views are, this child did not ask to be in this situation. you , as adults, need to figure it out and do it quickly.