What is the right thing to do?

Question

I have an ex boyfriend who has just been told his Father has a brain tumor,the problem is that I am in anew relationship and do not want to hurt any one but I want to be there for this ex,what should I do?

Answer 1

Depends on what you mean by "being there". be clear in that department first. Talk to sister, mother, aunty, friend....get a handle on it yourself first. Before you take any action, know what you want. Know your own feeling. Be honest. After that then, talk to your current boyfriend. Let him kinow what you mean by "being there". Set in definitive terms. 1 hr per week. 2 hrs per week....how you guys going to meet, one to one, in a group, with your boyfriend.....have you had intimacy with your boyfriend before...be clear there.....

Answer 2

I had a similar problem in a previous marriage. But illness is a different matter and its difficult for the patient and relatives to cope with sometimes. You could suggest to your ex that if there is anything you can do to let you know and of course new b/f will be jealous so use psychology and ask him if things were reversed and it was your dad, would he not give a helping hand.,

Answer 3

You can still be there for your ex and maintain your current relationship. Your new boy will see what an amazingly strong and supportive woman you are and you will show your ex what an amazingly and strong woman you are!

It is always in a time of crisis that your true self will appear, and you are obviously a very beautiful girl...inside and out! Good luck and please, know that there are a whole bunch of people out here that will be praying and thinking of your ex's father. Keep the faith!

Answer 4

I don't think you should start potential problems over this ex-boyfriend. People don't seem to realize that when it's over it's over. People try to stay in touch, and be 'just friends'. It doesn't do any good to cling to the past even though it may need you. Right now I think you new relationship is more important than your ex-boyfriends problems.

Answer 5

See his dad. Your not cheating on your boyfriend because your seeing your ex boyfriends dad with a brain tumor. People with brain tumor and other illnessess need to be comforted. You seeing him is a great way to heal their family. What's your boyfriend going to say? "I'm breaking up with you because you saw your ex boyfriends dad with a brain tumor?" Anyone who thinks that's cheating is a huge jerk. Infact, invite your boyfriend along.

Answer 6

i would explain to your new boyfriend what is going on with your ex boyfriend if he is mature he will understand. does your ex want
you to be there for him? if yes he is going to need alot of support and friendship during this crisis. good luck and take care

Answer 7

If you can talk, convince and take the current guy along, the problem is solved with no harm done!!!

Answer 8

tell your new boyfriend that you don't want to get back with your old boyfriend but you really want to know if his dad is ok

Answer 9

TELL YOUR NEW BF THAT YOU ARE GOING TO SEE TO SEE ur x's FATHER.,...................NOW IF HE KNOW YOU HE WOULD UNDRESTAND........
BUT THEN DONT GET INVOLVE TOO MUCH EITH YOUR EX....

COZ NOW YOUR NEW BF MAY FEEL LEFT OUT.....MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.........YOU SHOWED THAT YOU CARE...

YOUR EX WOULD UNDERSTAND AND LET YOU GO......COZ IF HE DON'T HE'S TRYING TO GET YOU BACK.......MEN DON'T LIKE TO SEE EVEN THEIR EX...WITH OTHERS,,,,,,,

YOU HAVE FAILED IN ONE RELATIONSHIP......DONT IN SECOND!!!!...
MOVE ON!!!!!!

Answer 10

be honest with your new b/f.ask him to join you if it makes him more comfortable.but let him know that you want to be there for your ex and his family.