My Girlfriend and I have been Dating for 5 years now and when we started dating we were in Highschool and she weighed about 112 lbs. Well I recently got back from a year tour in Afganistan and she now is up to 260! I love her more then any other girl I have ever met but I am physically grossed out by her weight...and we didn't even have kids! I am completely shocked at her body and even though I love her on an Emotional level I can't bring myself to have sex with her. What should I do?? I have talked to her about it and she says she just wants to live her life and not care about apperance...but come on! Im a fit person....Should I just end it now? I dont' want a girlfriend with that attitude or that body...but i still care about her.
2006-08-06 01:25:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmmm has she been doing nothing at all while you were gone? Honestly man I know you guys have been together for a long time...and I know a bunch of stupid girls are gonna say your being a jerk and that your shallow and blah blah blah...but dump her..I mean you don't have to even look at it from a physical basis, but a health basis..Do you want some unfit fat girl who is gonna die of a heart attack before she turns 35??? No..she sounds lazy and unmotivated and eventually thats all gonna wear on ya...not to mention you don't even wanna have sex so its all a matter of time..and with no kids...RUN MAN RUN!! get out before its too late
2006-08-06 01:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's so sad but there is so much more that the outward appearance like health, that is huge she will have problems from the weight and it will affect more than your sex life. I feel that if it already bothers you now it will only get worse in the future. I love how people say that you should be better than that and not let the weight bother you but hey your just honest with your feelings and she isn't willing enough to care, there is a difference when someone has a medical problem for weight gain. Trust me as a child of an obese mother it does affect everyone....let the past go and choose someone with the same attitude don't let anyone tell you that sex isn't that important in a marriage, it is so important to be sexually attracted to your partner.....good luck.
2006-08-06 01:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be cruel. But honestly what makes me lose weight faster than anything is stress. I don't mean paying the bills need a break from the kids. I mean the painful kind. Leaving her is going to hurt really bad especially since weight is an issue but If you left or cheated on her I am pretty sure the weight would come of Unless she is a comfort eater then the opposite might happen. The self esteem issues are enormous and this is a messed up thing to do to someone you love. But trust me you'll end up doing anyway. Just not on purpose but by that time you won't love her anymore and it'll be too late
2006-08-06 01:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be something there that made her got all those extra lbs. why don't you find out what it is before you give up? the attitude that she is having towards that problem doesn't sound good to me. besides is not just appearance but health. try to talk to her and if possible go together to visit a professional. good luck
2006-08-06 01:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by preguntona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, wat a shock for you, i would tell her that you need to be with someone that takes pride in their appearance, its not all about the weight but how she must feel about herself inside not to mention her health. Maybe she ate food 4 comfort whilst you were away, but your home now, ask her to address it or you wont be able to love her the way you want too. IF your not married and you dont have kids, theres still time to find someone who cares more about themselves
2006-08-06 01:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to weigh the pros and cons of that relationship. Another question is - if you were paralyzed, confined to a wheelchair, and she had to change your diapers on a regular basis, would she stay around despite your condition? Overall, is it worth it to you?
2006-08-06 01:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you cant be with her intimately then you shouldnt be with her at all. you are obviously a very shallow person. perhaps she is depressed. have you ever thought about the emotional side of it. or maybe she is happy how she is.either way if you feel sick at the thought of being with her then move on and let her find someone who fully appreciates her for who she is
2006-08-06 01:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i deal with that, i am overweight and i just want to say,don't bring it up and don't make it a issue,because it will only make it worse,offer to join a gym or just set a time to walk everyday.the more you talk about it the more she will eat and not care
2006-08-06 01:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by justacutebamachick02 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she was probably depressed while you were away...and discovered cookies and subs. maybe now that you're back, she'll get herself together.
2006-08-06 02:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by tisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋