Why do men and women think the other one is a mind reader? Why do we always have to play games in our relationships with each other?This guy that I like is so like that.Im one who doesn't beat around the bush.If I like you I'll tell you.If I don't I tell you that too.Why lead someone on?I asked this guy(who has been going through alot lately)if he was interested in dating me.We've been freinds for yrs.He recently got a divorce and has had some money problems.Anyway,he said he didn't have an answer for me.I guess Im confused.I'm thinking he doesn't cause if he did he be making it very clear that he did want to go out with me.Then again,with everything going on in his life,maybe he just needs some breathing room.He flirts with me,but doesnt act on it at all.He's always been a man to tell people what HE thinks.Hes always been blunt.Now he's all quite and has nothing to say about us possibly going out.He should just tell me what hes thinking and feeling, don't ya think?I can back off&have.
2006-08-06 01:21:29 · 14 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry. I wasn't thinking out loud. My question is about the mind reading crap. Why do we have to play such games with each other? It only leads to damaging the relationship. As for the guy I have backed off. I feel it's his loss, not mine. Let him find out the hard way what a good thing he's let go of.
2006-08-06 01:43:26 · update #1
If you really like the guy,wait for him.Maybe he does need some room right now,just keep being his friend,let him flirt when he feel up to it,and someday we'll be yours for the taking.Be patient.
2006-08-06 01:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are retarded that's why most cheat. They lead you on cause they need that safety. They straggle from one situation to another. If He was your friend and was always direct, it could be this life's change that stresses him and maybe makes him doubt himself so he can't be so direct because he is unsure or he is having trouble choosing the next direction his life takes!
If your his friend stay in that spot for now he needs you in other ways,the pressure of a choice may make him want to run or shy away from you...
I Say Give Him A Little More Time and be a friend if a different type of relationship comes out of it then great if not you will still have a good friend and have been a good friend!
2006-08-06 02:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rain S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he was married you were safe to flirt with and be friends with. Nothing was required of him.Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Sounds like he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and it's too soon after the divorce to start seeing anyone. Because you have backed up you can see the situation clearly instead of getting into something that will lead to heartbreak when the signs were there but you are so anxious you can't see them. Most men have trouble expressing their feelings and are out of touch with emotions. I don't know how old he is, but it may take a few years before expressing his feelings becomes comfortable. Of course these are generalizations.
2006-08-06 01:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People believe that their significant other should know them so well that they can read their minds... but really.. how silly is that!
I am thinking that this guy who just got out of a bad marriage isn't in a hurry to jump into a committed relationship yet. And depending on how bad he was burned... he may never. I would cut my ties and find someone who appreciates me and doesn't play those games.
2006-08-06 01:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Daring Zoey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the phrase "He's Just not into you" sound familiar....it's hard to accept at times but that's how it sounds only he is afraid to say that to you...he wants to keep you as a friend but that's it. Don't chase him back off and maybe he will see what he is missing...men love the hunt......that's what they are here for....although we hate hunters we have to play by the game if that's the guy we want...go for a better one there out there, good luck....
2006-08-06 01:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's when they start taking each other for granted and feel that a grunt or a nod holds a thousand words. HA.. But I think your fellow could be either trying to deal with his divorce and don't want to rush into anything or just plain old confused.
2006-08-06 01:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not something they ask for something i supply it to them i have been given to be as style as a threat. In my entire entire existence no lady has stated any undesirable element about me reason im like the nicest guy you'll stumble on in this international. If people communicate crap to me i dont care a lengthy time period later im there pal and that i kick back with them now. also all men dont choose sex you need to be effective and sweet to a lady and continuously.
2016-10-15 11:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The theory seems to be "if you really loved me...really KNEW me.. I wouldn't have to speak". Some of that nonsense comes from the whole "soul mate" mentality, I think.
(*shrug*) Back off...obviously he needs some space, and maybe you need to say to him..."I'm backing off because you act like you need some room. Let me know if you come back around, if I'm still available and interested, we can talk about it."
2006-08-06 01:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you just thinking out loud,or are you asking a question?
i can answer for some guys, that we sometimes get the feeling that because we've been with you for so long you sometimes assume we know what you want....and wouldn't that be just basic assumption, not mind reading capability?
2006-08-06 01:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and woman think differently. Seems you haven't figured that part out yet. When you both realize that it will get better.
2006-08-06 01:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋